Especially for women. Id like input.

[Guest1992]

Is it a turnoff if a guy in his mid 20s and older plays pokemon on the game boy/ds? What about watches spongebob? What about both? One reason I gave them up is so I can increase my odds of getting a girlfriend but I still feel childish participating in those activities, ESPECIALLY playing pokemon.

[Nighthawk61]

I think you may have taken the junior college teacher's comment out of context. I think he may have meant that for working parents, that need most of their time (not working) mutually attending to matters of the household, that any more than than a half hour or so, would greatly take away from communicating with the family. Many gamers tend to spend hours playing video games, if they play at all, and it causes a huge amount of stress in a working relationship. Especially if there are kids in the picture.

The reality is that people need to have time on their own, doing what makes them happy, but another reality is that family must come first, and raising a family or being present with a partner takes a lot of time. The reason why i was asking you to consider a hobby that made money, is that it would benefit a family.

The most important factor in relationships, is to find a partner that has the same idea of what is acceptable. In other words, if you like to pay video games for 2 of the 5 hours you have to spend after work, find another who wants the same lifestyle, otherwise there may be resentments and problems.

It's great that you're looking for other people's opinions on the subject of relationships. It shows you have an open mind and that's very attractive. Good luck in your search..

[Guest1992]

Thanks

[Boxing_Clever]

Yes. You are 24, watching cartoons and playing games should not be your main interests. Women don't want to date children, cartoons and Pokemon do not make you interesting or attractive to the opposite sex.

[Guest1992]

Well your comment is surprisingly long but fruitful. I also want to say that the idea of pokemon is interesting but I can't play because I feel childish personally. I just also wish I can watch spongebob without it being a turnoff to ANY women. I even asked a former junior college teacher in his early 40s if he said that stuff is a turnoff for a guy near 24 which is me. He said it was but at the same time he said playing even ONE hour of video games at my age is too much so he lost a bit of credibility there to me. I'd just like to read feedback out of curiosity.

[Nighthawk61]

Another thought.

I think since it is You saying you think that (especially) Pokemon is childish, you should take this as a cue, and consider adding another hobby or two, now that you are an adult.

Upon reflection, a women interested in you might not be harshly judgmental if you sometimes watch spongebob or do pokemon, however, they will be impressed with you as a potential partner, if you choose to learn a hobby, and get really good at it.

Hobbies are often a conversation starter, ie. "So, what do you like to do in your spare time?"
It might be a turn off if the only things that you can say are that you like to watch cartoons or play pokemon.

So, i wanted to start a hobby. I decided upon knitting because a) i could knit sweaters for my kids and eventual grand kids and b) I could possibly make money doing so in my spare time with free advertising from kijiji and craigslist, and c) it would impress my family.

There are sites designed to help a person make a decision on what hobby to get into. I think it's really important to think critically (as above coming up with reasons why knitting) before making a decision to spend time, as time is so valuable.

Maybe there is something that you would like to learn to do, that could also make you money.

It's so easy to advertise on kiiji / craigslist for free these days. With no advertising costs, it's alot easier to make money off of a hobby.

Also, take into consideration if you want to have a family. Learning a skill that you would enjoy, and could make you money, and would be useful to your future wife and kids is a happy trifecta.

Thanks for a GREAT first post!!!!

Here are some sites that might help you get an idea of what you might like to do.

https://hobbylark.com/misc/How-to-Choose-a-Hobby

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_hobbies

Also, it is VERY ATTRACTIVE to a partner, to know that health is an interest to their partner. I belong to the Mercola.com site, It's about everything health. I get their newsletter sent to my email address and i find it really interesting keeping up on health news. If you were to commit to reading an article a day, i think anyone would be impressed. We are wired to pick partners that are the most successful, and there's nothing more of a turn on that a man that is 'into' fitness and nutrition. it's easy to appear fit when we are in our 20's , but it takes education and action to actually being fit. So one good interest or hobby, if you're out to attract a female, would be attending the gym, walking, hiking, seeing the sites in your town, walking at the zoo (taking pictures), cooking and nutrition.

You can never have too much fun, and you'll never be found boring if you have a long list of things that 'interest' you.

[Nighthawk61]

I agree that winding down with pokemon, or spongebob, after successfully attending to school/work or for a half hour before household chores and family responsibilities, is not going to be a "turn off" to a women that does not judge harshly or critically. in fact, it might be a good way for you to judge whether a women might be too critical, judgmental, or "into" appearances.

I hope you come back and comment on our responses to your question. If you are by chance someone who is not yet found his niche in business or school, please know that we can also help you in that endeavor.

[Abbygail01]

I dated a guy a guy that I later found out was spending all his money on card games. 2 thousand for some game card. As long as it doesn't fall into addiction territory like it did with him. He ended up moving back into his mom's house after wasting his money on these things as a 26 year old. From what I hear he is 35, single, and still on the same path.

[Kwyjib0]

Sometimes there are well-adjusted grown men who just like Pokemon.  And sometimes they find a woman who doesn't mind it.  It's hard to overcome the ridiculous stigmas society has for playing video games and watching cartoons as an adult, and that is going to be even harder if everyone caves and give up those things just to fit in.

[AnnieBrooke]

Pokemon Go is very popular right now.  As RockRose says, if your life is generally an adult one, and you are doing adult things most of the time and accomplishing adult responsibilities, unwinding by doing things you used to enjoy when younger is not a turnoff.  

[RockRose]

It depends on what else is going on with you.  If you're employed or going to school full time,  and have your own place and transportation then watching spongebob occasionally and playing Pokemon occasionally would kind of be charming.

If you're struggling in a lot of ways and spend a great deal of time with Pokemon and Spongebob,  that's a different story.