I've read all the posts and it is clearly the case that these grown women are JEALOUS. Notice all their resentment is towards the child NOT the bf/husband. If you feel lack of attention or poor relationship with the husband then take it up with him. You don't get competive with a child. All their competitiveness goes toward the child. This is sick. You should never view yourself as a contemporary or competitor with a child. If you don't think you're husband is giving you the amount of attention you feel you deserve--you take it up with him. You don't resent the child. People do awful, evil, things when they are jealous. And it is truly scary what power a jealous grown women can do to a powerless child. Children are powerless to adults. They depend on adults. Receiving attention from their father is not a power over you. If you view it as that, you need psychological help before you start taking out your resentment onto a child. Jealousy makes mothers abuse their own children. It is the grown adult woman who is a spoiled brat if she is fuming with resentment over a child's bond with its own father. Jealousy of this nature is a natural thing indeed...for CHILDREN! For siblings. NOT FOR ADULTS! Certainly no adult should feel jealous of a child. Seek help if you fall in this category. You have a personality disorder.
it really saddens me to read a post like yours . you claim to be a strong woman , but you are threatened and jealous of his relationship with his daughter . it also makes me very angry every time a dad , like myself , is thought a molester or depraved person by people who are just sick in their thinking .
i am a father of 3 daughters . i have worked extremely hard to make my daughters feel loved , and secure with their relationship with me . all three of my daughters have slep in the bed with me at various points in their lives . i make it a point to hug them as often as i can . and to show them affection when ever i can .
for a father the worse day in life is the day his little girl no longer feels like it is ok to kiss him on the lips , or sit on his lap and just hug him . i was lucky enough to get to go in the delivery room with my oldest daughter for my first grandchild . her fiance and his family told her how it was wrong and how it was disgusting for her dad to be in there and see her private parts . she made me proud and not only defended her choice , but was absolutely sickened that they would dare say something so vile and disgusting about her dad .
there is no doubt that adults molest kids every day . it is a sad and sick person who can look at a child and see sex . but it is just as sad and just as sick that fathers have to live in fear and be looked at with sickening distrust because of sick criminals . no father can ever possibly look at his little girl and even imagine something so vile and sick .
Well, he was really clear about his priority and was up front with you. Little unfair to now have an issue with it in my opinion. You went into this knowing the situation. Why did you marry him?
You've only been married 2 weeks. If you feel this will cause you displeasure, then yes, I recommend you get out now.
good luck
I just got married to a 51 yr old man with a 12 yr old daughter who means the world to him. The daughter is mean to me and appears nice when her dad is around. He told me that his daughter will always be the priority in the house. One day i asked him for a movie treat and we ended up watching the movie that his daughter preferred and not the movie i wanted to see and they cuddled and held hands throughout the movie. I felt so out of place. He always hug and kiss his daughter more than he do me. And he tells her more "i love you" than he tells me. Should i get out of this marriage? We're only married last 2 wks ago.
I've sent you a pm and honestly, any questions you have about the forum or med help, I'll be happy to help!! :>)
I honestly don't know what you're talking about. I wish there was private mail here like in some social networks, I'm new here, so I don't know. In some funny way, I think we bonded a little, thanks anyway.