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Girlfriend broke up with me and still loves me
Hi a few days ago my girlfriend broke up with me and she still loves me she told me but she said we were having too many fights which is true we were on the phone and she said it just wasnt working anymore and then she said she still loves me and i know she does we've been dating for 8 months and i still love her too but i still DONT get it, we've gone through really tough times and gone trough them and now we cant work this out. please help me figure out why she broke with me i dont get it she never cheated on me and either did i so i dont get it PLEASE HELP!!
im in the similar situation right except we still keep in contact its very confusing one moment he wants to b with me and the next he doesnt i admit him & I had our fights due to ongoing stress in his house
and that i supposdley changed
I moved in with him february due to problems in my life i got kicked out of my home and im 17 i guess a little young to move in to boyfriends house
things were alot better than
He says he still loves me but it's over im so very confused and hurt all hes sendin is mixed messages i jus wanted to comfort ya and your not alone
and that i supposdley changed
I moved in with him february due to problems in my life i got kicked out of my home and im 17 i guess a little young to move in to boyfriends house
things were alot better than
He says he still loves me but it's over im so very confused and hurt all hes sendin is mixed messages i jus wanted to comfort ya and your not alone
Now, what does it has to do with the caps on the first word?? are you a teacher? You sure are a mad person. Annoyed, I care less about that. How sad that there are people who just can't go on with their lives and keep bugin those who doesn't even care about them. Am no mister grammar guy maam, i just typed in what i feel and care less about the grammar or the spelling, If you're to help, shut your mouth if you've got nothing good to say.. You annoy me, slow healer is kinda good in disagreeing with my opinion but sounded fair enough for me not to get offended.. But, you, of for your pagan god's sake, leave me alone. Just do your thing will yah??! Let's live in peace . AU REVOIR, SAYONARA, PAALAM.. Now if you wanna get into insulting play, am in... ;) (winks)
Why is it any different when a man breaks up with a woman but says I still love you but can't be with you? They were together for 8 months and I'm not belittling the relationship but an 8 month relationship compared to years is not that much time. If this guy was planning his life around an 8 month relationship than I say he jumped the gun. Life are full of these types of relationships, sometimes the breakup never makes sense. She doesn't have to give any reason for it, you just want one for closure. Make your own closure, the fact that she says she doesn't want the relationship anymore is your closure. Why would you want to stress over someone who just doesn't want to be with you? I know it's hard and breakups are never easy but you're lucky that she did it now and not years from now. She may love you as a person but maybe she's just not in love with you. Who's to say the decision wasn't hard for her as well. You can't sit there and think about what did she mean when she did this, you have to try to move on. She may be back and she may not, the only thing you can do is think that she may not so that you can move on to a woman who really appreciates you and the relationship you can give her.
I agree. Immature girls will sometimes throw out "I still love you, I'm just not IN love with you" as a misguided way to soften the sting. They don't realize that a confused guy will sometimes seize on the "I love you" part and not hear any of the rest.
I totally agree with your previous post (and having read your other posts, never thought I would say that, lol)
Of course you break up with someone you are not suited for. That is what dating is all about, learning about yourself and what you need in a relationship. If it is not right, why in heaven's name would you keep going?
To the OP: I sense you may be young. 8 months is a farily short relationship. I would say she has been haing doubts for some time. My advice is to let her go and move on.
Of course you break up with someone you are not suited for. That is what dating is all about, learning about yourself and what you need in a relationship. If it is not right, why in heaven's name would you keep going?
To the OP: I sense you may be young. 8 months is a farily short relationship. I would say she has been haing doubts for some time. My advice is to let her go and move on.
"finding someone more suited for you" is kinda selfish thing.. i mean, you cant just let a guy build a life around you just to realize and leave him because you felt he doesnt suite(sic) you."
Uh, yes, you can (and should) leave someone who doesn't suit you. I'm sorry, but what better reason would there be to leave somebody? If it's not a good fit, it's not a good fit. How is that doing YOU any favors? Somebody is supposed to stay with you even though they don't love you?
"he may had live a miserable life bacause of it.. or he may find it unworthy for him to have any woman since he ends up being alone"
Then he needs psychotherapy. Sorry, but break-ups happen. Buck up and get over it. Move on.
"i just find it funny because i've been having break ups with my girl a million times and still ends up intact x10. hehehe"
This sounds like an unhealthy situation to me. Commitment and deep love don't involve breaking up over and over again, only to merge again and repeat the same patterns.
Do you have a grammar checker on your computer? Your posts come close to being incoherent. I might take you a little more seriously if you actually could put two sentences together. Sorry, your poor editing skills show a lack of respect for your audience. This no-caps at the beginning of a sentence is incredibly annoying.
Uh, yes, you can (and should) leave someone who doesn't suit you. I'm sorry, but what better reason would there be to leave somebody? If it's not a good fit, it's not a good fit. How is that doing YOU any favors? Somebody is supposed to stay with you even though they don't love you?
"he may had live a miserable life bacause of it.. or he may find it unworthy for him to have any woman since he ends up being alone"
Then he needs psychotherapy. Sorry, but break-ups happen. Buck up and get over it. Move on.
"i just find it funny because i've been having break ups with my girl a million times and still ends up intact x10. hehehe"
This sounds like an unhealthy situation to me. Commitment and deep love don't involve breaking up over and over again, only to merge again and repeat the same patterns.
Do you have a grammar checker on your computer? Your posts come close to being incoherent. I might take you a little more seriously if you actually could put two sentences together. Sorry, your poor editing skills show a lack of respect for your audience. This no-caps at the beginning of a sentence is incredibly annoying.
That does sound rough, but I just wanted to provide the alternate perspective. To be fair, I did talk a lot of things over with this particular ex before I made my decision. It came down to a lot of things (needn't necessarily be discussed here). But I never regretted my decision and believe it was for the best. lol, it was also the first time I had to end a relationship and it was HARD. Contrary to what an embittered dump-ee might believe, it's no fun for the dump-er. I spent a couple months thinking and re-thinking the decision, topped off with a lot of tears. But I didn't want to be there just because I had gotten comfortable. Half of dating is figuring out whether you like the person enough to build a life with them. It doesn't mean you're married.
Don't want to paint that picture that everyone cheats on everyone and that's why anyone does anything... if you hear what I'm saying :)
Don't want to paint that picture that everyone cheats on everyone and that's why anyone does anything... if you hear what I'm saying :)
ok, so at any time you girls could just go bye bye to you my love?? well, havent you thouhgt of the impact it may have caused us guys, (if ever we were madly in love)? my stand here is to never say never unless you see everything falling down... "finding someone more suited for you" is kinda selfish thing.. i mean, you cant just let a guy build a life around you just to realize and leave him because you felt he doesnt suite you. just imagine, the what ifs.. he may had live a miserable life bacause of it.. or he may find it unworthy for him to have any woman since he ends up being alone...... well, ok, i dont wanna argue... juts my point maam.. no WAR here.. :) i just find it funny because i've been having break ups with my girl a million times and still ends up intact x10. hehehe
god bless
god bless
I disagree with that, f-n. I broke up with a boyfriend (never said I still loved him though). The reasons were unromantic but true. I didn't feel like we were a great match, and (to be blunt) I was sure I could find someone better suited for me.
My situation did not involve any cheating, and I could picture my ex posting a similar description here. Based on what the poster has said, I wouldn't guess cheating unless there has been strange changes in behavior lately.
My situation did not involve any cheating, and I could picture my ex posting a similar description here. Based on what the poster has said, I wouldn't guess cheating unless there has been strange changes in behavior lately.
NO! i thinkshe has cheated on you.. and she's playing safe.. shes guilty... fights or arguments is normal in a relationship.. it sometimes strengthen relationships... she still loves you but want out on a relationship in order to feel free from any responsibilities of her action.. given you didnt cheat.. but what about her?? wake up dude..
I agree with the previous poster. That's what sucks about breakups that aren't mutual - usually one person has spent a lot of time getting ready for it, while the other person is completely thrown aback. This girl has spent a lot of time turning this over in her mind. Whether she still loves you or not doesn't matter so much as whether she was HAPPY with you.
Even people in stereotpyically "bad" relationships still love the other person, even when they finally leave them. Those feelings aren't like a light switch. They take time to phase in, and just as much time to phase out.
If she if nice and respectful, then hopefully she will tell you why she wants to call it quits. If you really want a shot at staying together, listen to what she has to say and decide for yourself whether these are things that can be resolved (moving to different places, can't agree on marriage, are two examples of things that sometimes can't be resolved). Try to think with your head instead of your heart on this one. The heart can be very good at blinding you to what the problems are that this girl felt were unmanagable. Good luck!
Even people in stereotpyically "bad" relationships still love the other person, even when they finally leave them. Those feelings aren't like a light switch. They take time to phase in, and just as much time to phase out.
If she if nice and respectful, then hopefully she will tell you why she wants to call it quits. If you really want a shot at staying together, listen to what she has to say and decide for yourself whether these are things that can be resolved (moving to different places, can't agree on marriage, are two examples of things that sometimes can't be resolved). Try to think with your head instead of your heart on this one. The heart can be very good at blinding you to what the problems are that this girl felt were unmanagable. Good luck!
The relationship is not meeting her expectations. A girl usually does not break up with a guy on a whim...girls tend to think things through, call her girlfriends to discuss it, go back to thinking things through, write it in her journal, call another few friends and then finally call you. It is possible that she has grown tired of the relationship, but loves who you are, in general, as a person. If she truly loved you with her whole heart, she wouldn't break up with you. Maybe she also is scared to get in too deep with you because she is being pulled in another direction...either in her life, education or towards another guy and she wants to spare you the pain or she is confused with her feelings towards the other guy. However, she has done the right thing if she does have feelings for someone else or even if the relationship is not meeting her expectations--at least she did not stay in a relationship and waste your time and drag you along for a ride. The best think you can do, is support her decision, tell her your true feelings but also tell her you will respect her decision and you will give her space. Then, don't constantly be the "fall guy" for her every time she has a problem. She needs to realize what she is missing. Don't be rude with her if she calls, but let her know too that you will go on with your life, hang out with your buddies and you won't try and chase her and beg for her to come back. Time will tell if she will change her mind.
no i know we were having some fights but i think we could work out those things we always used to but i just dont get why u'd break up with the person u love
Do you think that she wasn't being completely honest with you, when she said that it was because of excessive fighting ?
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