Good Sex but I never have an orgasm

[lizandlou]

I have been with my boyfriend for almost 4  years now, I have only had about 5 orgasms and the only way I was able to achieve this either through oral or when he rubs with his fingers.  I feel nothing when we have sex.  He is average size and we have tried just about every position and it is fun and all but I never come.  Can someone help?

[lizandlou]

He just does not know what he is doing.  He said I had a sexual disfunction, NOPE, thats not it...He is the only one that did not know how to make me orgasm.  He did after I told him but it only happens like 1 every 4 months.  Sucks!

[sammie_s]

See if he would be okay to include sex toys into the equation.  You can always put a vibrator betweent the two of you and it creates pretty good stimulation for both of you.  I have about the same problem but I have learned different ways to make it work.

[broke123]

when i was younger, i had the same problem, just couldnt have an orgasm through intercourse. i had a long term boyfriend at the time, and he tought me "how" lets say... he would use his fingers or tounge right untill i would feel im about to have an orgasm. i would be like 2 secongs away. and than we would switch to intercourse. at that moment your body is ready to "***" so its easier to achive an intercourse orgasm. also it puts u and ur bf on the same time frame. it's gona take him some time to reach an orgasm, and ur already almost there.
anyways, i hope that works for u.

good luck

[pertykitty]

FIBROIDS?????? oh my

[BABYGIRL2006]

its not fibroids is it?

[RockRose]

Liz - I've been curious about this for years.  I have some women friends who say just what you say - they can have orgasms with a vibrator,  or oral,  or their husband's hands,  different things,  but never during sex.  I just sit there wondering,  and I'm not the kind of person who EVER EVER shares that kind of stuff face to face,  I'm one of the about 1/2 the women at the table who just sits there with her mouth shut.

But I wonder how that can be.  This is about to get graphic,  so stop reading if you don't want to read graphic stuff!!   ;D

Your clitoris is right there above your vagina.  His pelvic bone is right there,  going back and forth.  What happens when you arch your hips back and make your clitoris rub right there while he's moving back and forth?  It seems like with a generous guy,  who is trying as your guy is,  this wouldn't be difficult.  (I could see if you said I come so close,  but he doesn't last long enough,  I get that.  But to not even come anywhere close . . .)

Sorry if too graphic,  I'm just always curious about why that works perfect for me,  other women are shaped the same way,  why they aren't able to make that work.

Best wishes.

[Reesie222]

You said you dont feel anything???
Im not understanding how it can be good if you dont feel anything. Well I think you should ask him to last longer until your satisfied. Thats what I will do it takes females longer to have an orgasm sometimes.