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My bf is so controlling and im pregnant he says its either his way or no way and that i treat him like a ***** but i dont im always the one with money he never provides anything and when i dont want to be him something or give him money im suddenly he says greddy or a ***** or no good and that hes never gunna be nice to me and if i loved him i wouldve bought him that then he yells an gets mad at me cursing me out... this really stresses me out and at the end what do i do i buy him or give him the money cuz im nice but i know thats not right idk what to do he also dosnt trust me bcs found out i was talking to my guy friend and says i was cheating on him which i never was! And whenever we argue he always says you ****** it up for yourself thats why i dont trust u. He check s my phone and he also tokd me if i hang up on him he ill smash my phone, i need advice im 13 weeks pregnant
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I agree with the others here. You sincerely can do better than some self professed king that has never done anything to earn it. He sounds really lazy and a stoner. Who needs that and especially with a child on the way? You are working and providing for yourself and will do so for your baby. You don't need a second child (the boyfriend) to support as well.
I like families to stay together but not when one half of the equation is taking advantage, not contributing, controlling, etc. This will get worse and not better and as you have your child and are totally engrossed in baby care, can you imagine dealing with his difficult attitude? No thank you.
I'd document the weed smoking and lack of ambition/working for the court to help keep your child with him as little as possible. (wouldn't really want someone high hanging out with my child.)
I'm sorry it comes to this sort of thing. And of course this is just my opinion. You must make your own decision. But he's shown you who he is. And you can do better. good luck
I like families to stay together but not when one half of the equation is taking advantage, not contributing, controlling, etc. This will get worse and not better and as you have your child and are totally engrossed in baby care, can you imagine dealing with his difficult attitude? No thank you.
I'd document the weed smoking and lack of ambition/working for the court to help keep your child with him as little as possible. (wouldn't really want someone high hanging out with my child.)
I'm sorry it comes to this sort of thing. And of course this is just my opinion. You must make your own decision. But he's shown you who he is. And you can do better. good luck
Kick him to the curb. Problem solved. He's a jerk so why bother putting up with him anymore? After everything he had already done, do you really think it's ever going to get better? This angry and abusive control freak is showing you his true colors. This is who he is. He's not the wonderful loving caring guy you want him to be. Hey rid of him and your stress will be gone.
You need to make some tough decisions. IMO, it's not even a close call. I think you need to RUN, not walk....far far away from him. He's abusive, disrespectful, and a paranoid mooch. That combination is a recipe for disaster. Leave before you or the baby gets hurt, physically.
Best to you.
Best to you.
I would leave him they always say the guilty dog barks 1st. And if you leave him all the money your giving him u can save for you and your baby.... that's what I would do if I was in a relationship like yours... im sorry and wish you the best of luck... it's about you and that baby remember that
Sweetheart it sounds like you know he's not a good guy for you or your baby. Just because you are having a baby with someone does not give them the right to be in or control your life. If you are worried about him, you know in your mind and heart that it's not a healthy relationship. Also you can't think about yourself anymore this is about your unborn child - you have to ask yourself do you want your daughter treated like this or if it's a boy do you want him to see this as an example as to how to treat a lady? I know your saying to yourself "maybe he'll change?" Or "I can't raise a baby on my own" but you know the true answers to both of those: Women raise babies alone everyday and do a Damn good job and chances are he won't change in the long run... but this is just my opinion as each response is.Ultimately you have to rely on what you feel deep down. Good luck and I'll pray for you. Also message me if you need to talk.
Leave him. Leave as fast as you can. You and your child don't deserve that at all.
Umm..if you give him money nonstop, he treats you like sh*t, he doesn't trust you & he is calling you names..that's clearly unhealthy and he needs to take a long walk off a short bridge. If you enable it, it's going to happen.
Yea whenever i give him money i do act like a ***** only bcs i feel like it should be the other way around he should buy me stuff . Give me money and respect me
He may accuse you cause he doing something stand up for your self dont let him treat you like that remind him you are with child and he needs to step up or give him a choice he fixs his self up or he leaves thats not healthy for you or your lil nugget
He sounds like a horrible person! Tell him to get a job stop taking your money and stop being such an a** hole
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