Aa
baby's last name?
How do you feel if the child's father isn't doing anything now for the baby ...like he isn't even acknowledging that you guys have a baby on the way . You basically have been going thru this pregnancy alone . Does he deserve to have the baby have his last name?
Putting him on the birth certificate is not the same having his last name. Put him down as the father and get child support, but give the baby your last name.
Put it this way if you need help with mone you can not make him pay child support cuz you didn't put him on the birth certificate and yea that also opens the door for him to legally have rights but he can still fight for that whether you put his name on the birth certificate or not so really not putting him on there isn't any different the having it on there. Plus if you do go after child support you have to pay for the DNA test to prove he's the father and its already 400 bucks to get the test done that's not adding in the lawyer and court fees....honesty if you put him on there and I believe he has six years to show interest in parenting before he looses his rights and your new partner can adopt and take his rights over...iI understand how frustrating it is but you gotta think of all the possible situations that can happen before making a very cost effective choice.
You sound really strong, & I'm proud of you for not having an abortion! If he comes around, if he doesn't, his lost!! Congratulations on your bundle! :-)
^^We were together. We went to the hospital together and found out I was pregnant. I was thinking abortion and he was against it . Told me he would be there and everything. Once I saw the change in him as far as behavior wise and him not helping with anything I called it quits .. he still insist the baby gets his last name. He's been lying to ppl around the neighborhood telling them that my family is pushing him away ...and that he's been giving me 400 dollars every week..total b.s. my son will not be getting his last name at all. Thanks for the feedback ladie:)
A lot of guys are detached during pregnancy. Did he even ask for his last name to be listed on the birth certificate? Also, you didn't make it sound like you two are together. Just because you two aren't together, & he isn't there for you; doesn't mean he won't be there for his child. I would inform him of appointments, so he can attend if he wants. Personally, I think a baby should only have the father's last name, if the parents are married. Congrats on your baby!
People are so hell bent on staying traditional . Lol
My fiance supports me and my little baby in my stomach (: hes been there for me 100% and we consider ourselves to be partners till the end. (We havent gotten married because we dont know how to go about it seeing as we're both atheist.)
I didnt even have to question whether or not my baby would get his last name.
But in your situation, until he tried to step up (and even then i would make him wait) he doesnt deserve any part in your childs life simply because he doesnt make the effort.
My fiance supports me and my little baby in my stomach (: hes been there for me 100% and we consider ourselves to be partners till the end. (We havent gotten married because we dont know how to go about it seeing as we're both atheist.)
I didnt even have to question whether or not my baby would get his last name.
But in your situation, until he tried to step up (and even then i would make him wait) he doesnt deserve any part in your childs life simply because he doesnt make the effort.
No don't do that because if hes not doing anything now he probably want just prepare yourself mentally
Nope. And here is why. With that tiny paper he has control, if you have family out of state he can deny you leaving woth your child jist because he is on that paper. You can still get child support without the baby having his last name, or having him sign any papers. Its not always a garuntee that when baby comes, he will too. So you could end up marrying someone else, then say you have to move but you can't cus well bd says no. It is much much easier to have no name on the birthcertificate and baby has your last name. But the choice is yours good luck.
If you're not married, I don't think a whole lot should be expected.. especially before baby is born.
no the baby doesnt need his last name, i think they just make him do a dna test &the process becomes longer thats it.
Me n my bd are still together n I told him when you change my last name I'll change the baby's last name
The thing is the baby was getting my last name from the jump. But I wasn't sure if when I was gonna put him on child support did the baby have to have his last name
i say no, but if u ever wanna put him on child support i think the process is easier if he signs the birth certificate then going through a dna process.
No dont do it ,, my daughters dad dont do anything and i am giving her my last name
No.im in the same situation and my baby girl is getting MY last name. I told the father if he wants to be a dead beat father then he can go for it but my daughter won't be associated with his crap.
Nope. He doesn't deserve that right just yet. If he can't step up for your baby and be a man then I wouldn't put his last name on anything.
Yep, my mom tells me the same thing. The way I look at it, it's just a name, and i'm not married, so I don't feel like it matters. People always say "he's the father so baby should have his last name". That's not true, he may be physically the father. But if he was never there, didn't want anything to do with it, and never did anything, then it only makes sense. Do what you feel is right and trust your gut!(:
Uh no. I wouldnt pht it on the birth certificate u can always out it on later if wanted or he steps up
Have an Answer?
You are reading content posted in the Relationships Community
How do you keep things safer between the sheets? We explore your options.
Can HIV be transmitted through this sexual activity? Dr. Jose Gonzalez-Garcia answers this commonly-asked question.
A list of national and international resources and hotlines to help connect you to needed health and medical services.
Herpes sores blister, then burst, scab and heal.
Herpes spreads by oral, vaginal and anal sex.
STIs are the most common cause of genital sores.
