Help really needed.

[Mero3124]

New to this so please bare with me.
I have been with my girlfriend for a year and 9 months, and at first we were both happy and obviously in the honeymoon period of a relationship.
But for the past year my moods have been getting drematically worse (have a few problems mentally but thats a different matter)
We havent had sex... at all... in the whole relationship all we have done is i done oral to her and she only does over clothes stuff to me. She hasnt actually even seen down there... its really difficult for me cause i really want sex not for the sex factor, its cause i want to feel 100%close to her i want to feel that there is nothing in the world that will ever come between us that she 100% completely trusts and wants me...
but whenever i bring up the subject jsut to talk about it so that i can try and get some understanding of this she either just says sorry and then ignores me or just starts a different subject to get us away from that.
Last night i drank a fair bit and spoke to her (i say everything i think when drunk)
and i ask he straight out why and what is going on. and she could only answer by saying she wants to but she see's what we do at the moment as enough.
(She does nothing to me i do everything for her and not once has she even considered me....)
What do people think i should do cause i do love her but im so stressed out and frustrated and she is the main cause and its making my mental state so much worse then i thought it would get.
Please i really need some advice.

[specialmom]

No you didn't.  I hear what you are saying.  But I just can't say it isn't right for a young girl to not wish to go further sexually.  It is a vulnerable thing to do and many are not emotionally ready to take that step.  It does put you in a bind------------  and I understand that you are hurt and frustrated by it.  But the only two options are to wait and see or go ahead and move on.  I wish you luck either way!

[Mero3124]

She is 17 nearly 18 and i know were only young but it hurts.
Its not the no sex factor that bothers me completely either its the fact that she keeps lying say she does and promising me that it'll happen at blah blah point and then it doesnt happen.
She is agnostic and doesnt believe in no sex before marriage from what she tells me any way...
Sorry i shouldnt have posted just made myself sound like a tosser

[specialmom]

Well, it would help to know how old she is.  Your profile says you are 19.  I certainly understand wanting sex----------- most teen guys do.  But if she is younger than you------- she may be inexperienced and enjoying what is going on now.  She may want to wait.  Heck, some people actually wait until they are married for full intimacy.  I don't know what her beliefs are on that but it sounds to me like she is letting you know that this is it for now.  And while that is frustrating-----------  it is what it is.  She's maybe making the absolute best decision for herself and that would be what I told her to do if she asked me (not the no going any further, but to be careful with her sexuality and make decisions based on what she feels is best for her).  I'll tell you the same.  If you do not think you want a girlfriend that only wishes for this amount of intimacy at this point in the relationship---------- then you should find one who is different.  

good luck