Hey
I've been with my boyfriend for 3 and a half years. Things are great between us most of the time. I'm having a little bit of trouble understanding his motives at times and it leaves me stunned and confused. We don't live together, but share our time after work some nights and on the weekends. My frustrations come when I will invite him to an event (family birthday, fun sporting event to watch, serious sporting event, a weekend away, drunk night out), which is probably on average once a month, he says OK, but then he'll get invited by a mate to the beach house for a fishing weekend which he will always drop everything and go fishing. I'm all good with him spending time with his mates, but it's ALWAYS time with his mates over me. I feel like I'm not worth that much to him at times, or at least his mates are worth more. He complained that we don't do anything together (gee I wonder why- you're always fishing!!)
In a nut shell he is 27 and still lives with his mother. His father suicided just before I met him and I could feel the pain within the family and he works a stressful job which he doesn't get paid enough for.
What on earth do I say to him to get him to understand my frustrations? It's not only making me hurt, but it's also so rude to the parties that we RSVP to and then I only show up to!
Thanks for any thoughts
Nesslock