How to deal??

[sweetpea03]

I've been with my boyfriend for a year and I am very happy. My closest female cousin is 2 years older than I am and we have always been very close growing up. Well lately she's been acting weird in the last couple months. She is used to getting a lot of attention, usually for the wrong reasons(not something she would be necessarily proud of), but does like to get any attention. She's been going out on a lot of dates and in the last couple weeks, now has a new "boyfriend". They went on a date and now are "together". She's been talking about him to everyone in the family and is mad at me because I'm not "over joyed" that she has a new guy. Well, truthfully, I think she's moving way too fast and with her background, I'm a bit worried. She got knocked up in high school and has a few pregnancy scares since with different guys. I've tried talking to her about taking it slow, but she won't listen. Her attention seeking can drive me crazy at times. I don't know if I should just back off or should I stay with how I am now? I don't agree with what she is doing. She said I'm just jealous that she has someone now, as if it makes a big difference to me. She tends to be one of those "serial daters", so I don't want it to end up like that again for the nth time. Do I get involved or just let her make what ever mistake she will again?

[Redhenful]

My advice is to stay out of it..
If you interfere she'll just resent you and you'll look like the bad guy..,
If this guy isnt the right one for her.. time will show that, and she'll have to see it for herself.
Also..if she gets pregnant.. well.. again.. thats her problem...
The best thing you can do is just be there for her like you have been all along..

[imanaddict]

I had a friend like that (had is the key word here). She has been married 7 times. Yes 7!! She sounds a lot like your cousin. They are in love with the idea of being in love. It's tiring saying the same things over and over and they just keep on and on. There isn't anything you can say or do to stop her, that is how she is and no one (but her) will be able to change that. intervening won't help, so I say just let her go about her business and see what happens.

[specialmom]

Let her make her own mistake.  One of the most valuable teachers is consequences.  She may never learn if not left to suffer the consequences for her own actions.  Also, some people dig in when they feel someone trying to tell them what to do and they become even more stubborn.  Just hope for the best and yes, back off.  The way you've handled things thus far has not worked, right?  

Maybe there is some truth in that you resent her not for attention seeking but for getting attention.  Distance yourself from it and go on about your normal, healthy and happy life.  good luck