I need advice...Is he using me?

[CassandraJane13]

Recently I meet a guy. One night I got belligerent drunk and had sex with him. Then after we kept it at a constant. We have the same friends and they all know about it. We don't make it awkward we don't care. When were around them he finds ways to sit next to me an well talk. Once I went to his house as his roommates girlfriend started talking about their childhood and popped out the baby pictures, her boyfriend walked in and started talking about the first time we had sex. What do y'all think?

[specialmom]

Personally, if a guy isn't asking you out on proper dates, calling and chatting with you during daylight hours just to see how your day is going, etc.----  then he is probably using you.  Booty calls are what happens when someone gives you a call at 7 pm when they have no other plans and says "hey, come on over and watch some tv tonight" (code for---  do me).  

When a guy says---  I want to see the movie Argo, do you want to go friday? or Ali is having a party on Saturday night at her place, want to go, I'll pick you up at 8.  Those are dates.  

Don't sleep around with someone that doesn't treat you like a proper date/lady.  good luck

[Londres70]

I thought I was the only one confused.  

I am not sure how bb guns, baby pictures and this situation with the door have any significance.  

Tink......brilliant idea; remove the sex and see what happens.  

[TTinKKerBBell]

PS
I agree with RockRose.  There do seem to be riddles here and I'm also curious how old are You?
I just now read Your profile page and I must say

I HOPE YOU ARE NOT RISKING PREGNANCY UNDER THESE CIRCUMSTANCES??!!  and if You are:  WHAT ARE YOU THINKING??!!

[TTinKKerBBell]

It seems to me that You Both have been somewhat "casual" about sex....that perhaps at the start You were Both "using" one another (?) after a drunken night (?).  I agree with Londres that casual sex while drunk "sets the tone" - but one might think His Behavior and Character was no different than Yours.  If this particular behavior tells You something about Him, well then, it's telling Him something about You as well.  

If You want to know if  the relationship is more than "just sex" then perhaps You should take sex out of the equation.   I'm not suggesting to never have sex with Him again - but to not let that be the do-all, end-all of Your time Together.  I am suggesting to spread Your horizons with One Another.  Go out together, do things together, find out if You have common interests, likes, dislikes, whatever.  You should be able to determine if this is a relationship or JUST sex.
Good Luck

[RockRose]

I have no idea what this conversation is about.  :(

Cassandra,  you are talking in riddles.   Can you be clearer?  

I can't tell if you're having sex with him routinely,  what the statement is about the girl showing off her baby pictures,  what the meaning is with him leaving his door unlocked and then later locking it,  and why your friends would shoot you both with BBs and then apologize for it.

Sorry,  maybe it's too late in the afternoon.  :(

[CassandraJane13]

After he realized he left it opened he locked it

[Londres70]

And this guy left the door deliberately unlocked?  The guy you are having casual sex with?

Do you really want this for yourself dear?

[Londres70]

Plus having casual sex with a guy while totally drunk.......that pretty much set the tone for this situation.  That says VOLUMES about the type of guy you are dealing with.

[CassandraJane13]

Yes, he had left the door unlocked when we were about to go at it and they opened it and started shooting at us with the toy BB guns,

The girls boyfriend was telling me he was sorry that it was his idea hit that he wasn't the one that **** at us. It was an apology.

[Life360_Dave]

Well if he is asking you to spend the night after having day sex with you, he might like you alot and wants to get closer to you. You are correct, if a man just wants sex then he will kinda a disappear after sex and not want you to spend the night.

[Londres70]

"her boyfriend walked in and started talking about the first time we had sex."......do you mean the bf of this girl's started talking about sexual details of this other guy and you?

I think this situation is way too casual and I would say you are probably being used.  Sounds like the typical "booty call" senario IMO.

[CassandraJane13]

In most cases when guys use girls they just have sex no stings attached and do it on their own time. I'm just confused because when I go over me communicate, watch television, he asks me to stay the night which I never do. I'm new to this

[Life360_Dave]

Hi Cass, you kinda of lost me with this post. Can you be a little bit more clear about your concern?