I'm scared

[Heradessa]

I accidentally got pregnant and my boyfriend isn't supportive about it what to do?

[specialmom]

Hi there.  Well, you do have options. There is always adoption?  It's really a great option for women who are pregnant at the 'wrong time' or before they are financially stable or in a good place in their life to raise a child.  You would then get to go on about your life and find a NEW and better boyfriend and then when you are ready, marry and start your family when in a good point in life to do so and then a couple who can't have a child has the wonderful gift of parenthood.  They have open adoptions these days so you could know the baby, stay in touch etc, or you could do a traditional closed adoption.  It's really a great solution for situations in which having a child isn't ideal.

If you choose to have the baby and keep it, then you will have to most likely raise this baby on your own.  Lots of women do it and it turns out fine.

I'm sorry your boyfriend didn't turn out to be who you thought he was.  It sure does hurt to find this out and especially at such a critical time!  peace

[wiction]

Then I would do it alone.

[Heradessa]

I'm 9 weeks pregnant and I'll be 19 years old on the 28th of October

[OctoberBaby5]

Unless you accidentally got insemination done there's no such thing as "accidentally" getting pregnant lol.. with that said.. tell your boyfriend that if ge doesn't wanna take care of what he helped create that you dont need him and put him on child support, theres nothing wrong with being a single mother. Good luck!

[wiction]

How old are you and how far along are you?

[JessicaSorge96]

I'mgonna be a single mom too. My bf wants nothing to do with our daughter but I have God and family and friends. Plus you don't have to argue over parenting styles. That baby will be all yours!!

[jessica18xx]

:(

[babyrare]

The biggest thing is to have an honest conversation where you both speak your mind without being interrupted by the other.

I was in a similar situation,  unplanned and even we werent really full time dating because we lived quite far from eachother. he was really against everything and unsupportive. We had so many serious and brutally honest conversations, often not in agreement. Many that even discussed abortion. In the end, I decided i was not having an abortion for my own values and health and gave him a choice - be involved or not (i lived in another country at the time working, he is from there and I am American, so not being involved meant I returned to America). And i laid out for him my expectations if he wanted to be involved. Mainly being supportive, not marriage or anything like that, just emotional and monetary)

I didnt want the extra stress of an unsupportive man bringing me down if I had to be a single mom anyway. I gave him time on his own to make his decision, which after coming to the doctor with me, he decided he wanted to be involved and really be the father. But I was prepared mentally eitherway.

I am about to give birth, we ended up getting married and I truly could not be happier. He is the most supportive and excited father-to-be now. We fell in love through the process of making difficult decisions and having arguments and discussions with respect for eachothers opinion, values, and culture.

This may be an unusual situation that worked out so well. But I strongly encourage you to come to your decisions and stick to them. and then, be honest with what you need from him if he intends to be involved. Prepare yourself for an answer you dont want to hear, and give him time. This is huge for him as much as for you but you dont have a choice but to process it quickly. Its harder for men to truly grasp and wake-up to the reality. Our brains clicked naturally, their are slower to accept it.

I understand the fear and absolutely dreadful loneliness you are probably feeling. I dont know how old you are, but dont let anyone tell you how you should feel or what you should do. That is all up to you. Listen to advice. But pay most attention to your own words and feeling. Give your boyfriend time, he needs more time than you to adjust.

Good luck. ♥

[asherz123]

The way i see it u didnt accidentally  get prego its not just u. he did it to u know what i mean. Dont just blame urslef. And you should think long,and hard about what to do whats best for all of you. How do u feel about it. And alot more good luck.i hope all goes well

[Heradessa]

Awww am sorry to hear what ur going through :(  but u know i'm so scared to go through this all by myself

[amberlee_94]

Dump him & take care of your baby. He's not somebody you want around.. sorry about your situation.. my baby daddy doesn't want anything to do with my son. It's his 6th baby.. I'm the 3rd baby momma.. but you know what.. my boyfriend is going to take in my son and raise him as his own. There is always a positive!  Be strong for you and your baby! Don't let him get you down. His loss!!