they dont understand

[jessica18xx]

I dont think our husbands/ boyfriends will ever understand the anount of stress we have being pregnant then the pain we endure while giving birth, i hate it when my bf says just becuz your pregnant doesn't mean you have the right to act like that stop making excuses and im like forget it you wont understand ....

[Londres70]

Agree with NG.

Being pregnant doesn't give a woman the right to behave anyway she chooses nor should pregnancy be used to justify bad behavior.

[Life360_Dave]

Well put!

[nursegirl6572]

The problem I see (and frequently) is that many many women are using their pregnancies as an excuse to behave poorly...."it's the hormones".  While a certain amount of moodiness is to be expected, there shouldn't be drastic behavioral changes.  

I've been pregnant three times, and besides the obviously big belly, nothing in our relationship dynamic changed.  Life went on as before.  I can't say I honestly noticed much of any change in my moods.  I'm crankier during that time of the month than I was while expecting.

While your man may not be very empathetic, could it be that you're maybe overdoing it in the name of being pregnant?  I don't mean that to be offensive in any way, it's a fair question.  A lot of women don't even realize that they're using the pregnancy card so much to justify a certain behavior, or to justify not doing things they are perfectly capable of doing.

Just some food for thought.  

Best to you!!  Hope you have a healthy and easy pregnancy!

[Life360_Dave]

Of course we cant understand the amount as we cant experience it. Depending on the relationship that you have build, depends on the way you treat eachother.

[specialmom]

I was wondering the same thing as rockrose. What things are you saying are related to pregnancy that are bothering your boyfriend?  

[RockRose]

A certain amount of being tired and nauseated is normal in early pregnancy,  and certainly labor can be painful.

I don't know what you mean when you say "just because you're pregnancy doesn't mean you have the right to act like that" - how are you acting?

Some women sail through a pregnancy happy,  and some women have to learn to control themselves because their hormones make them want to say unnecessarily hateful things.