My trainer in the gym became so close to me that he became my best friend. One time he asked 2 thousand dollars from me and promise to pay it every month in installment basis. It is one year now and he didnt even pay it. He borrowed money again 1000 dollars, i hesitated to lend him but when he promised to pay it after a week ( which he actually did), i agreed. During this year, he asked me twice to pay all his stuffs ordered in Amazon as he has no credit card amounting to over 1000 dollars.And when we go out, he buys stuffs which he also asked me to pay but he never told me if this are loan or not. He never paid all up to now! He got married and I was not able to go to his wedding and wasnt able to give him gifts.But i bought him a 55 dollars silver wedding ring and he asked me to pay for a cheap simple casual dress and perfume that he bought for his bride.Now in my mind I am accusing him of being a user but if I distance myself to him would he also accuse me of being a user? In the gym i have a one year membershio but for special private training we have to pay 150 dollars to the trainers. I never do private training but i always asked him the exercises daily and always asked for guide like what food to eat etc. He is also a kickboxer coach but I never enrolled to his class. But one time I asked him if he can teach me, and he said yes.So this is my first question, Is he a user?
Secondly, since he is so nice to me, i kinda fell in love with him aka "bromance". Everyday i think of him and i confessed to him many times how much I love him. He accepted me, and we even have greater bromance like cuddling in bed, kissing, massaging, we almost do everything except sex of course! But we kiss in the lips several times but without the toungue. Now he is far away to get married, he never text me because he said they have no wifi. But i can see in wwhatsapp and FB that sometimes he is online. I dont want to call him nor to message him but actually i am dying to see him and hug him. He is coming after a month and I am not sure if I have to distance myself from him when he arrives. He promised me that he will love me forever! I have a wife and kids but my love for him is so overflowing! I am confused! My wife knows about the money that he borrowed but never know that I pay for the amazon and other stuffs.