17 years & i love him 2 bits BUT

[natalile]

I have been with the love of my life, my sole mate for the last 17 years on valintines day, But we have a problem, It dosn't help having 2 boys that won't go to bed when there told & our 6 year old end's up getting into bed with us, But our sex life is a no go, We did have sex a few days ago but coz its been so long, it woz over before it even started, He got what he wanted but i was lsft high & dry lol, But that was coz the dog got in the bedroom & jumped on the bed so that was that.
The problems started because of the pill i was on, It was no good for me i was on a period for 3 weeks out of the 4, so that made it a no go for full on sex, i could please him but i got nothing in return, i no its not his fault but i did take it out on him, i no not fair but when your that frustarted i just took it out on him. So i went to the docs & now i get teh depo injection & its exellent i have not had a period since the first injection & i have 1 every 11 weeks its great, But for some reson my fella dosn't trust it ????? Can enyone understand that, It's the same as the pill 99.9% safe
What can i do 2 put a bit of zing bk into my sex life, I have a total conplex about my body, even though we have been together 17 years in feb i hate to be naked in front of him, As i have a horrible body, no bobs, streach marks ect ect,
I'm in dire straights, as he blames me for the lack of sex & jokes about it, but i really take it to heart plz plz can enyone give me advise on how to kcik start my sex life again, we used to have a really really healthy sex life but this last year has been none, Its getting to me really bad eny advise would be really thanked
thanks for reading this i hope it made sence lol
peace nat xxx

[Calamity2]

Nat yes I can tell you how to kickstart your sex life.  Stop taking the pill you are refering to your sex life will be  so much better.

[Julie359]

Happy humping....xxx

[natalile]

Thank you all for the good advice, I no i shouldn't be so self confident around him, & make sure the kids don't push there luck. Who no's 2010 might be our year to get us back on track, instead of just been parents 24/7.
& julie thanks i'll make sure i get what i want before enything, there's nothing more frustrating than been left feeling horney & he's ok.
I'm going to plan something for tomorrow night, i won't say enything though, if i show that i wnat it badly things might improve all round eh, i can but try.
I like the advise about going & getting dressed in something sexy then calling him up, i won't feel so naked if you no what i mean lol.
Thanks guys & i'll let you no if it works out hehe xx
peace nat xx

[Julie359]

go to ur local underware shop and buy a sexy little number.  Maybe invest in some baby oil or some edible body paint, get some candles to create some romantic light in ur bedroom.  Maybe to get him in the mood cook a meal with his favourite foods and make a fruity salad to keep in the bedroom for afters.... make sure the kids and the dog are well out of the way and serve him up his food and then go from there.  A little wine, some relaxing flirting convo, and slip off to the bathroom and get dressed up...... this way you can face him due to not being totally naked.  The candles, body paint and fruit with the sexy undies will do the trick and u'll have a brill time in the process.

Also a little hint to get what u want, b4 you let him perform intercourse, make sure you are satified, encourage him to go down there and perform oral sex on you until you get what you need...... then and only then let him enter you, as trust me once they are in it is normally all over in a matter of mins and then as you have experienced you wont get nothing.

I do hope this has helped.

[jo929]

take mami advice also make the kids mind now, when you tell them to go to bed do not let them do as they please because as they get older you will not be able to handle them, also, you are worh more than you think, yes get some sexy stuff and go for him.  luck  jo

[mami1323]

Well your first problem is not having confidence.  That's a huge turnoff for men.  He's your husband he knows that you had children and I'm sure doesn't care one bit about your imperfections.  Go get some sexy lingerie and send the kids off to the grandparents for an evening or get a babysitter and rent a hotel room and have some fun.  When the kids are asleep take it to the livingroom or another part of the house and try to be exciting.  That's how we try to keep the spark alive.