Is he really into me?

[veggielover]

I'm 19 and my boyfriend is 25. Sometimes I wonder if the age difference is a big deal or not. Honestly, up until now it hasn't really been an issue. Anyway, we've "officially" been together for about two months, but we were seeing each other for a couple months before that. Recently, we haven't really been having any sex at all. We've only had sex twice in the past month. I feel like something's wrong, I don't know what it could be. It's been making me feel really self-conscious lately like what if he's just not attracted to me or what if i'm just not skinny enough for him to want me. We used to have sex at a healthy rate, but now it's pretty much diminished. I don't get it. We're both pretty passive people which makes it even harder and I lack the confidence to tell him what's on my mind most of the time. I'm really doubting myself at this point and I don't even know where to start to get things back on track again...I hate getting all serious because I like to be an easy-going person, but I guess I need to set my foot down at some point, right? Sometimes I think he likes me because I am pretty easy-going and if I get all serious on him he might not like that.....

There's a lot to our background and he's been weird about some stuff before. I approached him about something once before we were even going out and it led to us not talking for about 2 weeks. I don't want that to happen again.

Any advice at all?

[veggielover]

Yes, he does hang out with my friends. He actually gets along with everyone quite well and that's not a problem at all. I really appreciate all this advice, now the hard part is  going to be just acting on it. Thank you

[teko]

It sounds like he may have a control issue if he gives you the silent treatment when things dont go his way. Seriously, you need to watch that and if their is a pattern to it, get out!
I agree about communication. I dont understand how anyone can sleep/have sex with someone and then not be able to talk to them. I must be getting ancient! lol And as far as the age thing, does he hang out with YOUR friends? If not, yes it is a problem.

[specialmom]

Agree with the wise mami!  If you are afraid to talk to him about things within the relationship for fear he may react badly, the relationship is doomed.  Honest relationships mean you can talk about things that are going on.  So, unless you learn to do that, this relationship will always be teetering on the edge.  goodluck

[mami1323]

Part of being in an adult relationship is communication.  If you cannot approach him on how you're feeling, how do you think things will change.  First let me say not having sex often when you've only been dating a couple of months is odd.  Sex and passion stays intense for much longer than that.  Intimacy does die down but that's after years of being together.  There are always ways to put spark back in but you two sound like a disaster just waiting to happen when neither of you is the aggressor.  You are passive and he doesn't like to make moves, at this rate, neither of you will be having much sex.  Someone needs to take control here.  It can't be one sided but you have to at least have someone in this relationship that is going to try.  I would sit him down and tell him you love being with him and you want your relationship to blossom but that you feel that the intimacy has changed and you want to know if there was a reason for that.  Sometimes it's the approach that can change his reaction.  You don't want to argue with him because that's why he may pull away.  Maybe there is a medical reason or maybe he's stressed, but you will never know unless you ask.  You don't want to be a push over just because you are easy going.  Good luck.