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Is it appropriate?

Is age 10 too old for a father and daughter to shower together? Or what age is too old for them to shower together? I know a girl that is 18 years old and has told me that her and her father showered up until she was 10 years old. She has also said to me I wonder what size my father penis is. I know she is older now but I dont know where to go with this.
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Yes, this sounds like a troubled girl.  And frankly, discussing these things with a young woman that is babysitting your kids, the daughter of a former lover/boyfriend probably isn't appropriate.  How did this even come up?

Ya know, some things you have to leave to the professionals and this situation goes on the list.  Encourage her to seek therapy and exit out of the situation.  She's now an adult and not being abused and says she never was . . ..    So encourage she seek counseling and help in the psychological area and move on.

Something still doesn't sit right with me about this (besides the obvious) and I again will say that you shouldn't over involve yourself here.  good luck
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It's commendable that You want to help Her through this but the best help You can offer Her is to encourage Her to see a therapist.  I think everyone here sees this as a bigger issue than the size of Her Father's penis.  
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How many problems are there regarding this post?  Holy mother of pearl!  A father showering with his 10 year old daughter..... no, bad idea... plenty of dysfunction that in my opinion borders numerous legal/abuse issues.  The daughters fixation about her fathers penis size?  Something is terribly amiss here.

Sounds like there needs to be some kind of an intervention and a whole bunch of couch time for the whole family.

Did I see mention that this daughter wants to baby sit?  Never in a million years would I allow this kid to baby sit at my house.  Too many red flags to even consider risking another childs welfare.
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This girl requires therapy to deal with the whole situation and what happened was totally wrong and inappropriate as the other answerers have stated aswell.If you want to help her then suggest she seeks therapy for these extremely odd and perverted showering activities.It's just not right for these things to occur.
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I will agree with Specialmom.  

The best you can do is recommend her seeking professional therapy to sort this out.
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Yes it was relating to his father penis size. It blows me away the stuff she tells me. But I want to help her through this.
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