Is it him or me?

[luvzherman]

Hi there
me and my boyfriend have been together 4 mnths now and i believe we truly r happy together, but some days i get seriously depressed i find myself crying at the littlest things he says and then he gets annoyed because he cant stand me crying and calls me a little sissy girl of course this just worsens the situation. I am 19yrs old and he has just turned 25 we share very different cultures i am kiwi and he is indian i wonder if culture and expectations r a factor to this. I really do love him but some days i get so depressed i just cant stand it we do talk often about things like this but he is paranoid that our relationship is hurting me. What can i do? does anyone else feel depressed with the one they love? plz help how can i make our relationship more enjoyable?

[jo929]

you say you beleive that you are happy, but are you really, that is the question you must ask yourself do i love him enough to live the rest of my life with him, if you have doubts back away and think it over it is your life and your decision to make  luck  jo

[luvzherman]

thank u i was also thinking the same thing my BF has also talked to me about getting councelling as i have very low self esteem

[mami1323]

Why are you depressed?  Is it something in the relationship that isn't right and that's why you are sad and depressed?  I only feel sad and depressed if it was due to something that wasn't right in the relationship.  You can create your own happiness by controlling your emotions.  If this isn't possible than maybe you should look into counseling and getting on meds to regulate your moods.  I don't think the difference in culture makes him react to your crying in a negative way, I think he is annoyed because he probably doesn't understand why you are so unhappy.  Some men look at crying as manipulation or they just don't know how to react to it.  I don't think there is anything your boyfriend needs to do, I think you need to take the steps in getting help for yourself.