Alright, here goes...
This girl I knew came to visit me from out of town, and stayed with me for eight days. We slept in the same bed every night, but I refused to sleep with her. I threw away all of my condoms to ensure myself that I wouldn't. Then one night, while I was asleep, she basically took advantage of me. She had a Mirena put into her and she was on birth control pills (so she says, but she could've easily been lying). After we had already done it, I figured what the hell, and being a guy (and a weak one at that when it comes to a good looking gal), we slept together a few more times. All unprotected. I know, I know, I'm an idiot. Trust me, I don't need ridicule. She had planned on moving here, but I told her not to. She went back home, and we continued to talk. Everything was fine. After a couple of months, I told her I don't want to talk to her anymore, because I figure we'd both move on. Neither of us was going to move to where the other one was, and I'm not into a long term relationship. I ignored her for two weeks and then she sent me a text message saying she had to tell me something important.
Sure enough, she said she was pregnant. She said she felt she was gaining fat in her stomach area, and had missed her period whenever. I got real nervous, and told her to take a test.
A few days later, she did. She sent me a picture-message on my phone of her and a positive reading HPT.
So far, I've been very nice in describing her. Basically, she's whacked out. I didn't find this out til later, and I told her not to move here because of it, while being nice.
She calls her pregnancy a "blessing". But I'm still not convinced she's pregnant. If she is, it'd be four months along. She told me after two months, and said that she could feel it kick. Right there, that made me believe that she was lying. Any credibility she may have had went right out the window. I was still a nervous wreck though. I never had a father growing up, and I would never do the same to another child. Ever. That's what makes me nervous. Not child support or anything like that; but the fact that there would be a child without a father.
Now I have no way of seeing her in person. She lives states away. I blocked her phone number because she was stressing me out real bad with text messages. I thought that was the end of it, and convinced myself she was crazy. Last thing I told her was that I moved away.
Everything was fine and I pushed it out of my mind. Til she called and told my family. Now it's a big situation on whether she's lying or not. She basically wants me to marry her, without saying it. She says that I'm the perfect guy, and would be the perfect father. She's happy to have my child, etc etc.
Then she told me that she went to the doctor, who told her the date of her conception was January 16th. I looked it up, and you can't pinpoint a date like that. I mean, especially if she was lying about her missed period...
And also, I remember she had her period during the time.
A lot of what she says doesn't add up, but it's leaving me sleepless because I don't know for certain. I believe that, if she IS pregnant, it is: A) Either from the scumbag she was dating whom she broke up with a week before she came to visit me; or B) Either by the guy she was dating when I stopped talking to her. Both guys she denies sleeping with...
It's a real tough situation and is certainly hurting me terribly. I'm honestly not an *******, and if she IS pregnant, and if the child IS mine, I'll have to man up and do all I can do.
I just don't believe that she is. I honestly don't know what to do other than wait until October to see if she has a child. What else can I do, right?
And one last thing.... I had the thought after she told me that perhaps she found out she was pregnant before she came to stay with me for a week, because it was a spontaneous decision to come here. I offered her an "out" basically, and never planned on sleeping with her... but I thought that maybe she knew she was impregnated by some idiot, and she wanted to pawn it off on me, whom she believes to be a much more suitable father.
If she's after money, she's SOL. Please offer your opinions. I'm wondering if she could've faked that pregnancy test, or if all of this is just a bad dream, or what. I'm stumped and stressed.