Well, I'm glad man. I believe we learn our best lessons from difficult things. This was a near disaster------------ so glad it has given you the wisdom for next time!
You're very right. I guess that was a sick of her trying to hold on to me but it only made me run the other way. I can't understand why she would say something so drastic to keep in her life but I did get off lucky.
I am so relieved!!! I have definitely learned my lesson...
Reflecting and reflecting again! LOL! Either way, you are off the hook bro! Run the other direction away from this chick! And fast. Don't even think about turning around and getting some! There are plenty of crazies out there to avoid. This one is wearing a name tag and is making it easy to identify her! "Hello, My name is CRAZY". RED FLAGS FLASHING RED LIGHTS KOO KOO! Best of luck to you!
And that is when I believe she is a liar liar pants on fire. Either that or she's an entirely selfish person who does not value life.
I am entirely with Annie.
Upon reflection, she *would* have come at you with a paternity suit, if she wanted your attention and talking to you online wasn't working. She would never have gotten a (so-called) abortion if she was pregnant with your baby -- it would be the golden ticket to you. You called her bluff, so she blustered and blamed you, but seriously, if there was a real baby, she would keep it in order to keep the link to you and get your attention (and presumably your money). You are so well out of it.
Lucky you. I am not trying to be flip, but she sounds like she is faking it big time (though I did expect it to be a so-called miscarriage, not a supposedly-guilt-inducing "abortion."
Please steelers, use this to get your head straight on how to do relationships with some principles and certainty. At least only get involved with ladies you know in person, and with whom you have friends in common, so you know they are who they say they are. The Internet is great for only saying and showing what very tiny amount one wants to say and show. This girl, cheating on the guy she is living with, high drama, and possibly faking a pregnancy ... you are lucky to get off this lightly. The next one might come at you with a paternity suit or a knife.
I have been ignoring her for the past few days because she seems to really want attention from me. But even if you are pregnant we don't have to talk ya know? So today she sends me a text saying she is doing to have an abortion because she feels like i'm not going to be in the babies life she also said she hates my guts and she doesn't want to know anything about me...
DNA tests are available at Walgreens or your local drug store discretely for the practical price of $39 last time I checked. Just sayn....Apparently this is a common thing to have to do nowadays. not judging... been there myself...
I agree whole heartedly with Annie. Tread carefully and if she is in fact pregnant don't do the at home dna tests. Like she said, she could easily swap it with her ex/bf's whatever he is dna.
ps -- Watch out for that old favorite, "I had a miscarriage."
pps -- Even if there is a baby (and my bet is that there is not) and if the DNA test proves it to be yours, you do not have to have a relationship with her during the so-called pregnancy. Wait until you have proof, and be sure the DNA test is brokered properly through someone like a doctor you choose or a lawyer, so you know she's not exchanging the swab for her live-in's swab or something before handing it in.
It doesn't sound very true, to me. If she really had an ultrasound when she said she did, she should be willing to send you a copy of it. The dates should line up with what she told you on the phone. (There should be dates written on the screen of the ultrasound, and they would show on the photo of the ultrasound.) She should be willing to send you the doctor's name, and the records from the clinic or hospital visit. She should also be willing to get an ultrasound when you see her on June 10, for the purpose of dating the pregnancy.
Write out a timeline, including the date when you had sex. If she was pregnant from that particular time, the way a doctor and ultrasound tech would count the pregnancy is two weeks before the date you had sex. In other words, if you had sex 5 weeks and 2 days before she told you she was pregnant, if the pregnancy dated from that day, the doctor would indeed have told her that her pregnancy was about 7 weeks along or even a couple of days more, "if" he saw it on the ultrasound.
She has a lot of reasons to tell you that she's pregnant by you, if she is obsessed with being your girlfriend, and there's no proof yet that she is telling you anything except a made-up story.
DNA test, if there is a baby and once it gets born, is the only way to go at that point.
1st. The pull out method isn't a form of b/c. Many people have gotten pregnant this way so yes, it is possible for her to be pregnant.
2nd. Doctors can only guess at how far along you are without an u/s and then the u/s can be off by up to 2 weeks. I was pregnant with twins and if we didn't know what week I conceived (the only week my husband was home. He's a marine and at the time was stationed a few states away from me.) we wouldn't have known how old the boys were. The u/s was off by almost 2 weeks b/c of how small they were. So it's possible.
3rd. A pregnancy test isn't accurate after 10 minutes. I kept two of the tests from when I tested with my boys for their baby books and the screen in them turned completely white after a few weeks. The screens on the two digital tests I took went completely blank after 15 minutes. So it's highly unlikely it was an old test. It is possible though that a friend of hers is pregnant and peed on the test for her.
You're going to just have to wait and see if 1. a baby is born and 2. get a paternity test.