Engaged!!!!!! Question for the married MH Members

[AnxiousGurl]

SOOOO I am so happy I just got engaged Xmas eve. & everything worked out great Christmas Day. Although the beginning of the day today was hard ..my mom was upset because I told her I got engaged and would be having dinner with the the "in laws" and would only be spending an hour or so at christmas with my fam. My now Fiance's mom called to see if I would be coming for dinner...I was crying already...so I went outside and talked to her about what was going on...she would have backed me up 100% with my mom, but I told her no its ok...so she had me come to her house to tape up the ring a bit so it would fit so I could wear to my Uncles house.  SO I left and we went to my uncles....and I played it cool for about 20 min or so...then pulled my Grandma aside...wanted to tell her first...and she's like WHAT? your pregnant? IM like NOOOOOOOo lol..she guessed again ...your engaged!! I was Like Yeaaaah! and IT was GREAT she gave me a hug congatulated me and gave me this whole long speech as long as your happy ...yadda yadda yaddda" lol . Then we came back out and I announced it and everyone was sooooooooo SUPRISINGLY awesome about it.
My "mother in law" wants us to have an engagment party....I kinda dont want too...but at the same time..our families havent met yet....I thnk it would be a good pre-prep party for everyone to meet.

AHHHHHH Im soo happy. but Have a question for all of you who are married? WHAT to Expect????Anything I should know????lol

[AnxiousGurl]

Oh yea and I ended up spending more time at my families ....my "mother in law" I guess I might as well call her that now...she called me while I was at my Uncles...to see if I was ok..and how everything turned out...so I told her they were SO nice about it ...and she said to stay and have dinnner with them...so I stayed and my mom was happy I stayed and everything just worked out! Totally not what I expected...Im very happy.

I hope you all had a Very Merry Christmas!

[babypooh]

Congratulations!!!! What to expect? Hmmm, expect the unexpected! Dating is one thing, but you really get to know someone when you get married. You get to know their different habits that may get on your nerve and you need to learn to live with :) People change when they get used to the married life. Try not to fall in a routine because it becomes boring and stressful at the same time. Find time to talk to your husband at the end of the day. Don't forget to tell each other you love each other every day.  You should probably expect things to be difficult at first, but then every stage of marriage has lots of bumps along the road.  Every marriage has different struggles, so you can expect to have a few; just remember to remain calm and always talk about it.  Being married is wonderful when two people love and respect each other so expect your husband to stay true to his vows and talk about it when either one of you is not living up to them. Expect a lot of beautiful memories to be created and don't forget the camera! Merry Christmas...

[gokuangel]

Congrats!! i think babypooh covered it all already but yep being married is a wonderful thing, expect the bumps in the road and take them in stride and remember to always stand by your husbands side no matter what!! I think a big thing is if there is any kinks in your relationship work them out now b4 you get married!! Things wont get better just cus you get married so fix them now if any!! Congrats again!!

[AnxiousGurl]

Thank you guys! Hope you both had a great holiday!

[BearHitch]

Well I haven't had the best of experiences with in-laws, but unless you were already close to your fiance's mom, I would not recommend talking about issues with your mom with her.  That just sounds like trouble and could really hurt your relationship with your mom.  That's nice that she would be willing to back you 100%... but its an issue between you, your fiance and your mom - the MIL is not included in there.  My biggest piece of marriage advice would be to constantly have the mindset of its you and your fiance - you are making your own family and new traditions.  Some families can have a really hard time letting go and realizing that.  I know this from a LOT of experience  :S  Make sure he can practice the "leave and cleave" BEFORE you get to the altar.

[Agiesmom]

Congratulations!  I'm so glad you obviously worked out all your issues.  Sounds like the families are happy, too!

What date did you choose?

[Jasmine205]

Congratulations, AnxiousGurl!!! So romantic to be proposed to on Xmas eve too. Were you really surprised?
Much continued happiness to you both and all the best in 2009 as well.