i need advice

[clafoutis]

Ive been dating my boyfriend for 3 going on 4 month ive known him already befor we start dating but at first all his rude remarks racist jokes i got a little upset but he told him that he doesnt mean any of it and he'll stop but he hasnt. he makes promise that he wont keep, ignores me and only remember me for sex but being pregnant im so sick and super sensitve that im refusing but he makes horrible jokes that makes me feel like crap. all he does is play WoW or watch tv and dont speak to me unless its his sexually jokes or mean jokes bout my animals. i resuce animals and i told him and he knew bout it but one day i had a cat that i took to the vet foound out she had a blader infection well it was rather expensise but nothing so bad like surgery he told i should of just put her down no need to pay that much, or after thanksgiving he didnt trash the turtkey bones like my mom asked him and in the middle of the night hearing alot of noise i ask him he said no why should i i told well the cats and dogs will get it and start eating he said well good that way they all can chock and die and we can get you your pom...
well iv spoke to him many times and everytime he'll act all better like he listen but either in the middle of the day or the next poof back to the old habits, i asked him to help with cleaning the house the litter well its my mom and i who is cleaning i have end up doing the cat litter multiple times even though i shouldnt,  and then sometimes he snaps at me or my boys i got mad him for snaping at my boys their only babies and their teething, but when he get off his "long" day of work (3-4hours a day if not less) we asked how was work or what news his response nothing walk away ignore us if we instite more snapping and again i go talk to him and same thing im tired of talking and lecturing him i dont know if there is anything else to do yeah i know i should probably just kick him out but for some odd reason im scared im soooo scared and i dont know why actually i would like my mom to do it but i know very well thats not the right solution..... I need help!

[clafoutis]

yes she is great support and now that the confrontation is over im so relaxed and thrilled now i cant wait till his father arrives to pick him up lol

[specialmom]

I'm sure that was hard but I think it is for the best.  It sounds like your mom is good support and I'm glad you have that.  Good luck

[clafoutis]

so tomorrow he will be leaving and going back to his family and home i had my mom with me and help me alot during this last conversation which i am so grateful because i was so scared to do it by myself

[AnnieBrooke]

Being alone, since you can take care of yourself, is better than being with someone who takes you down further than you would be even on your worst days if alone.  Get your legal ducks in a row regarding child support and show him the door.

[specialmom]

Oh darn, did I read that you are pregnant by him?  Rats!!  I would have told you to run screaming in the other direction as fast as you can as you have very little time invested in dating him and he does not sound like a good catch or match for you-----------  but now you are expecting his baby?  Ugh.  I'm not dissing your baby or anything but wish . . . oh I don't know, that he were a better guy for you.  

Well, I am afraid that this isn't going to end well.  He's yelling at your other kids, yelling at you, crude and rude, ignores you except for sex, doesn't work much, ----------  yeah, I think you end it and hope for the best as now he is forever tied to you and the child you carry.  

Now, you can break up with him and your mom can be in the house or even the room if you feel intimidated by him like he might blow up or something. But you should do the breaking up.  That is the mature thing to do.  And it leaves no room for further discussion.  Make sure you have a plan-------------  it sounds like he is living with you and your mom?  Well, have some people there as he packs up.  

I think you have a bit of a rough road ahead of you as a single mom but better that than being with a guy that has potential to become abusive and he sounds like he could go that direction.  good luck