Lost Trust, now about to lose love

[T6c]

I have been with my girlfriend for 3 years now.  We are currently on a break so she can become more independent before she study's abroad in italy for two months. This break up was my idea believe it or not.  Before all of this was planed i have lied to her twice about not hanging out with certain girls when in fact i was. Yet i lied about seeing them even though it was only hanging out it never went any furthur than that ever. She has only lied to me once but slept with another man while we were going out, which to her was a mistake that she will never make again. Obviously knowing that i am in love with her i gave her another chance. We have lost all trust and on top of all that it is a volatile relationship, she screams all the time and now i think i have bcome a screamer.  Should i just move on and try my best to get over her?

[T6c]

Thank you for all that advice..that was more than i expected...I will take what i have been given and take the next step...

[imanaddict]

Someone once told me "Just because you are in love with someone, doesn't mean they are right for you"

I have found this advice to be so true and helpful in past relationships, and I hope you will too. When a relationship has mistrust issues, it's REALLY hard to gain that trust back. People that are TRULY in love with each other don't sleep with other people. They don't even think about it. Being in love and loving someone are two completely different things.

I too, think this break will give you both time to reevaluate your feelings and relationship. If she can't refrain from being with someone else (and you too) while on this break, then this may not be the girl for you. Only time will tell though, and no matter what happens, I wish you happiness!

[PrettyKitty1]

I believe not being around her will actually benefit you. You may not feel this way at first, but it will do you good in the long run. Life continues. Carry on, and be happy.

Best Wishes.

[iam1butterfly]

I totally agree with mami1323...this break probably comes at a good time for both of you to establish space and re-evaluate the direction of the relationship.

[pcarsey]

I think it is time for both of you to move on. Obviously you two are not committed as two people in a relationship should be. She slept with another man and you hanging out with other women and then lying to her about it. Why would you feel the need to lie if nothing was going on? And why would she sleep with another man if she was in love. It's obvious to me that the two of you are either have issues with true commitment or there are other issues going on in your relationship where you feel the need to lead a bit of a secret life even if to a certain extent.

[mami1323]

I think perhaps this break is going to be good for you both.  You may not know now what to do but as time goes on the decision will become clear.  If you are comfortable being without her and notice that during this time apart then you know the answer to your question.  Only time will tell.  Good luck.