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Lying
Hey there,
Dated a girl for a month or so, to realize that I just didn't feel she was "the one". So i ended it. Of course, sadly, when we were together we did have sex. During sex she always use to beg me to ejactulate inside her. She said it was a "fetish" and gave me the tag line "I can't get pregnant". Even showing me her BC pills in her bag. Though I never used a condom, I would always fake "being close". Regardless, I still would never ejactulate inside her. Never. Even with other girls, I use to have the whits about me enough to tell myself no. There after a while I started wearing condoms to be safe.
Mind you, this girl lived an hour away. When we "broke up" she would say "I'm on your way to your house" to "talk"... Without telling me before she left. More recently, she faked having a first date with someone just to play up that she was in danger and need someone to get her away from the date. After she realized I wasn't going to be her "savior" she pulled the "I'm on my way to your house" move. After arguing I rolled my eyes and agreed. But she thought it was her way of getting me back into a relationship... But I said no, admitting I had feelings for someone else. She left me alone for a while.
Three nights ago she started a convo asking me to photoshop a logo for her. Since she was t talking about "us" I agreed to help her create the logo. Then the convo continued into her claiming that she is dating someone who "worships the ground she walks on"... Then persisting to say that she doesn't feel the same way... As of last night, without a slight warning she claims she is pregnant.
I'm 26, probably overdue for a child. But I don't want one right now. With student loans and barely able to make end meat, it's not fair to a wonderful little one to do that. When she told me I advised of taking the pill to stop the pregnancy, which led her to say "I will have lawyers draw up papers so you won't be responsible"... Claiming she's having blood work done Monday, and if she is, then she will serve those papers.
I played the abortion pill card because I didn't know if she was bluffing to pull a stunt, or if it was true... And I do believe in the idea in stoping pregnancy as long as it can be taken care of with a pill. After that, a child shouldn't suffer. I consider myself responsible, but I'm a tad freaked out because I wanted to get away from this girl in the first place, even having to block her.
What do you guys and gals think? Bluff? Real?
Dated a girl for a month or so, to realize that I just didn't feel she was "the one". So i ended it. Of course, sadly, when we were together we did have sex. During sex she always use to beg me to ejactulate inside her. She said it was a "fetish" and gave me the tag line "I can't get pregnant". Even showing me her BC pills in her bag. Though I never used a condom, I would always fake "being close". Regardless, I still would never ejactulate inside her. Never. Even with other girls, I use to have the whits about me enough to tell myself no. There after a while I started wearing condoms to be safe.
Mind you, this girl lived an hour away. When we "broke up" she would say "I'm on your way to your house" to "talk"... Without telling me before she left. More recently, she faked having a first date with someone just to play up that she was in danger and need someone to get her away from the date. After she realized I wasn't going to be her "savior" she pulled the "I'm on my way to your house" move. After arguing I rolled my eyes and agreed. But she thought it was her way of getting me back into a relationship... But I said no, admitting I had feelings for someone else. She left me alone for a while.
Three nights ago she started a convo asking me to photoshop a logo for her. Since she was t talking about "us" I agreed to help her create the logo. Then the convo continued into her claiming that she is dating someone who "worships the ground she walks on"... Then persisting to say that she doesn't feel the same way... As of last night, without a slight warning she claims she is pregnant.
I'm 26, probably overdue for a child. But I don't want one right now. With student loans and barely able to make end meat, it's not fair to a wonderful little one to do that. When she told me I advised of taking the pill to stop the pregnancy, which led her to say "I will have lawyers draw up papers so you won't be responsible"... Claiming she's having blood work done Monday, and if she is, then she will serve those papers.
I played the abortion pill card because I didn't know if she was bluffing to pull a stunt, or if it was true... And I do believe in the idea in stoping pregnancy as long as it can be taken care of with a pill. After that, a child shouldn't suffer. I consider myself responsible, but I'm a tad freaked out because I wanted to get away from this girl in the first place, even having to block her.
What do you guys and gals think? Bluff? Real?
I agree with Londres70, don't keep in touch w/ this woman. Keeping in contact w/ someone who is desperate could lead them to believe that you may still be interested in some sort of relationship, even though you have stated otherwise ~ it sends mixed signals...
If you do not want to be a father or catch an std any time soon, always use protection ~ don't ever assume the female has that covered...
Good Luck
If you do not want to be a father or catch an std any time soon, always use protection ~ don't ever assume the female has that covered...
Good Luck
Just because a woman shows you a pack of bc pills or states she can't get pregnant doesn't mean you wear NO condom.
I am surprised these tricks still work on men as they are old tricks women used to keep a guy near and dear to her by becoming pregnant. Amazed they still work in the year 2015.
I am surprised these tricks still work on men as they are old tricks women used to keep a guy near and dear to her by becoming pregnant. Amazed they still work in the year 2015.
It's difficult to say if she is pregnant or not since you had sex with her without a condom. Your current gf, you, us, etc. can't say whether this is bogus or not.
This woman sounds over the top, but that doesn't mean she is lying. Time will tell. I wouldn't contact her at all and see what happens.
BTW: Being responsible means wearing a condom 100% of the time especially if you aren't ready to be a dad. Even though you faked "being close" doesn't mean much especially since sperm can be in the pre-ejaculation fluid. It's rare for this to happen, but it can.
Know it's a sure thing BEFORE getting into bed with someone and wrap it up everytime.
This woman sounds over the top, but that doesn't mean she is lying. Time will tell. I wouldn't contact her at all and see what happens.
BTW: Being responsible means wearing a condom 100% of the time especially if you aren't ready to be a dad. Even though you faked "being close" doesn't mean much especially since sperm can be in the pre-ejaculation fluid. It's rare for this to happen, but it can.
Know it's a sure thing BEFORE getting into bed with someone and wrap it up everytime.
She hasn't sent me any proof. Nor shown me the two pregnancy tests she claims were positive.
I don't how long her and her new guy have been together, but I did unblock her on social media to see if that was even true. On her profile she does not have any indication of the pregnancy, her new guy, or anything in between. In fact, she still has one pic we took the brief time we were together. The fact that she waited until 3 days of very touch and go conversation to tell me raises red flags also. Those conversations entailed her wanting me to create a logo for a fund raiser she claimed to be doing (no more convos about that topic were had)... Telling me her "boyfriend" worships the ground she walks on and is good to her, then a few hours later saying that being with him is great but isn't sure if she's ready for a relationship. Then out of no where it turned into a conversation about us and then in the middle of that conversation she randomly just threw it at me.
The girl I have rekindled an old love with thinks she is bluffing.
But I'm being very conservative about how I approach this, because if she is lying, I don't want to poke the lie too much and make her lie any more than she has (because I've been pretty uptight about this; can't eat, sleep, etc).
I stopped texting her after she threatened to "serve me papers". Haven't heard from her since, even though she claims she was calling today to see how fast she can get those papers drawn up.
I don't how long her and her new guy have been together, but I did unblock her on social media to see if that was even true. On her profile she does not have any indication of the pregnancy, her new guy, or anything in between. In fact, she still has one pic we took the brief time we were together. The fact that she waited until 3 days of very touch and go conversation to tell me raises red flags also. Those conversations entailed her wanting me to create a logo for a fund raiser she claimed to be doing (no more convos about that topic were had)... Telling me her "boyfriend" worships the ground she walks on and is good to her, then a few hours later saying that being with him is great but isn't sure if she's ready for a relationship. Then out of no where it turned into a conversation about us and then in the middle of that conversation she randomly just threw it at me.
The girl I have rekindled an old love with thinks she is bluffing.
But I'm being very conservative about how I approach this, because if she is lying, I don't want to poke the lie too much and make her lie any more than she has (because I've been pretty uptight about this; can't eat, sleep, etc).
I stopped texting her after she threatened to "serve me papers". Haven't heard from her since, even though she claims she was calling today to see how fast she can get those papers drawn up.
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was she pregnant or not ?
From your post, she sounds manipulative, unstable, and unpredictable.
Is there solid proof (test results) to confirm she is pregnant?
She claims she's been dating someone else, that means there is a possibility of another man being the biological father also.
Is there solid proof (test results) to confirm she is pregnant?
She claims she's been dating someone else, that means there is a possibility of another man being the biological father also.
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