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Hypersensitivity to intercourse?
My girlfriend is very sensitive when we have intercourse. She says she doesn't have the matching stamina that I have to fulfill our needs. We are very romantic when it comes to sex but she can't keep going because she feels it too much. she quivers to the point of pain. She is very upset that she can't keep up. Is there anything we can do??
They make numbing cream for men, have you guys tried that? You can buy it at most pharmacies and I believe it uses minute amounts of Benzocaine.
my, you have some bad taste. no wonder you've been banned and your comments erased from the forum.
you should consult a shrink or take a pilgrimage to mecca or some place else very far away from civilization so that no one may be infected with your filth and vile.
your repugnant remarks border on lunacy and perversion. A creature like you should be banished from the face of the planet and exiled to the abyss.
i just wonder if you've been a victim of child abuse, rape, or torture as to arrive at such ludicrous thinking in giving advices.
your perception of how the world operates betrays your neanderthal upbringing and the twisted approach you advocate at various degrees of circumstances in the forum indicate just how morbidly insane your depravity have worsened to.
but i hope we can meet in person so we could discuss a lot of things. i like you, and i hope i become like you.
go dikhead......
you should consult a shrink or take a pilgrimage to mecca or some place else very far away from civilization so that no one may be infected with your filth and vile.
your repugnant remarks border on lunacy and perversion. A creature like you should be banished from the face of the planet and exiled to the abyss.
i just wonder if you've been a victim of child abuse, rape, or torture as to arrive at such ludicrous thinking in giving advices.
your perception of how the world operates betrays your neanderthal upbringing and the twisted approach you advocate at various degrees of circumstances in the forum indicate just how morbidly insane your depravity have worsened to.
but i hope we can meet in person so we could discuss a lot of things. i like you, and i hope i become like you.
go dikhead......
lol, whoops. That post should be with the OTHER topic. My mistake ^_^
Whether unconditional is the word or not, when you choose to accept someone in to your life it should be without superficial judgement like that. I certainly don't look at my partner when he takes off his shirt and tell him to wax his back or get moles removed or anything like that. Why the heck do people get so hung up on looks??
my, you have some bad taste. no wonder you've been banned and your comments erased from the forum.
you should consult a shrink or take a pilgrimage to mecca or some place else very far away from civilization so that no one may be infected with your filth and vile.
your repugnant remarks border on lunacy and perversion. A creature like you should be banished from the face of the planet and exiled to the abyss.
i just wonder if you've been a victim of child abuse, rape, or torture as to arrive at such ludicrous thinking in giving advices.
your perception of how the world operates betrays your neanderthal upbringing and the twisted approach you advocate at various degrees of circumstances in the forum indicate just how morbidly insane your depravity has worsened to.
but i hope we can meet in person so we could discuss a lot of things. i like you, and i hope i become like you.
go dikhead......
you should consult a shrink or take a pilgrimage to mecca or some place else very far away from civilization so that no one may be infected with your filth and vile.
your repugnant remarks border on lunacy and perversion. A creature like you should be banished from the face of the planet and exiled to the abyss.
i just wonder if you've been a victim of child abuse, rape, or torture as to arrive at such ludicrous thinking in giving advices.
your perception of how the world operates betrays your neanderthal upbringing and the twisted approach you advocate at various degrees of circumstances in the forum indicate just how morbidly insane your depravity has worsened to.
but i hope we can meet in person so we could discuss a lot of things. i like you, and i hope i become like you.
go dikhead......
Ohhh, darn! I missed it again. I'm always too late!!
somebody sure sounds familiar in a creepy and eerie sort of way...
Rut - I have a sense from what you are saying, that she just doesn't want to have sex.
She states she had a lesser sex drive until she met you. Now she states sex is too stimulating so she doesn't want to do it.
I think she's avoiding sex, and is trying to do so in a way that doesn't hurt your ego and can still keep you as a boyfriend.
I could be wrong.
She states she had a lesser sex drive until she met you. Now she states sex is too stimulating so she doesn't want to do it.
I think she's avoiding sex, and is trying to do so in a way that doesn't hurt your ego and can still keep you as a boyfriend.
I could be wrong.
I have had sensativity like it feels like rubbing alcohol has been rubbed in that area. It turned out that I don't have enough estrogen because of the birth control I am on. I also, sometimes, have pain during sex like excrushiating (sp) pain, but I have endometriosis (sp). I would have her make an appt to go see or GYN. One last thought do y'all use a lubricant? She might not be able to stay moist for very long.
I really hope this helps.
Good luck and pain free sex
I really hope this helps.
Good luck and pain free sex
Thanks for the advice. The one thing I should prob mention is i believe that the pain is a result from the over sensitivity from stimulation, not the main problem. She has told me she has a lower sex drive and only since we have been together has it been higher. Could lack of sexual activity cause this too? i know she masturbates, but not habitually. And hasn't been sexually active in some time before us. I guess what I am saying is that the sensitivity is more the problem than the pain. I am stumped.....
And yeah I will be very patient with her, thats why I am looking for help because I know she is quite worried about her lack of stamina. She is out to please me too so i wont push her away.
Again thanks for the help
And yeah I will be very patient with her, thats why I am looking for help because I know she is quite worried about her lack of stamina. She is out to please me too so i wont push her away.
Again thanks for the help
Has this been an ongoing problem or just recently? Does she masturbate? Is it possible that after overuse of sex toys her clitoris has been left a little sore and bruised? If that's the case, maybe she's rubbing too hard and actually damaging herself. It's happened to me (embarrassingly enough). For a while I couldn't stand any pressure on my clitoris (after some lengthy self-pleasuring romps). But it usually went away after a few days of abstaining. Ask her and see if that's the case.
Otherwise go see a doctor. Could be more serious, like an infection. There are infections that can leave the skin in and around the vagina dry and brittle (thus, painful, especially with intercourse). Might be as easy as using a special hydrator for the vagina (can't remember the name of it right now). This has ALSO happened to me. Had sex in a hot tub, and the chemicals in the water actually damaged my skin such that sex was utterly painful for the next few weeks. When I went to the doctor, they said sometimes laundry soap (leftover in clothes) or shaving creams can also cause additional irritation like that. Ask yourself and your partner what have you been up to lately...
BTW if it is an infection be PATIENT with your partner and give her plenty of time to heal. Female parts can be so tender, and as a woman, it can be just as confounding for us as it is for you to understand what's going on. With the hot tub incident, my partner (at the time) got very put off when I calle a sex break. No matter how many times I explained it to him that it was a temporary physical problem, he still remained insecure (like I suddenly didn't want him or something). This advice may be overboard, but don't do that!!! It created such grief in our relationship for a few weeks, and left me feeling like I was the problem (grrr). Let me know if any of this helps! Good luck!
Otherwise go see a doctor. Could be more serious, like an infection. There are infections that can leave the skin in and around the vagina dry and brittle (thus, painful, especially with intercourse). Might be as easy as using a special hydrator for the vagina (can't remember the name of it right now). This has ALSO happened to me. Had sex in a hot tub, and the chemicals in the water actually damaged my skin such that sex was utterly painful for the next few weeks. When I went to the doctor, they said sometimes laundry soap (leftover in clothes) or shaving creams can also cause additional irritation like that. Ask yourself and your partner what have you been up to lately...
BTW if it is an infection be PATIENT with your partner and give her plenty of time to heal. Female parts can be so tender, and as a woman, it can be just as confounding for us as it is for you to understand what's going on. With the hot tub incident, my partner (at the time) got very put off when I calle a sex break. No matter how many times I explained it to him that it was a temporary physical problem, he still remained insecure (like I suddenly didn't want him or something). This advice may be overboard, but don't do that!!! It created such grief in our relationship for a few weeks, and left me feeling like I was the problem (grrr). Let me know if any of this helps! Good luck!
It starts from the very beginning. From the foreplay on. even during oral. its like its more stimulation than she can take. and then after some time having sex she says its starting to hurt. I'm lost i've never heard of this before...too much stimulation. I don't know how else to explain it.
I'm kind of having trouble seeing exactly what you're talking about.
Is she this way at the very beginning of sex? Or does it last a long time and then at the end she just is exhausted or sore?
Is she this way at the very beginning of sex? Or does it last a long time and then at the end she just is exhausted or sore?
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