Military girlfriends, fiances and wifes

[ASB06]

Ok so im engaged to a United States Marine and its difficult.  I would just like to talk to ANY military girlfriends, fiances or wifes!!  

[Lucey12]

My fiance is in the canadian army. Though he hasnt been on tour yet he is probably going next year :(  I dont have such a big problem with him gone for a couple months its just knowing he will be gone againa dn for longer that kills me. Though the canadian army is different and they only go for 6-7 months at a time, htere is the equivialant in work up training that he will be away for. The year of not seeing him is what scares me.

Though we dont have kids yet, I think it woudl be easier do deal with him gone because the kids are keeping you pre-occupied,and they are a part of him that you have with you to remind you of him. My man says he wants to have kids (and I say they have to be out already) before he goes over seas.

[Jasmine205]

*hugs*
Is this his 1st tour to Iraq? or has he been there off and on ...
Does he tell you stories about his job that worries you, or is it what you see on the news that has you scared for him?
When are you both to be married? You said you all are engaged now. Did you want to do it before he leaves for his duty?
I think you could talk to his mom about all this too, I imagine her fears are the exact same for her son as yours are, since you both love him. And maybe you can comfort each other through it all.

Ask your guy to give you contacts numbers for the military family resource place in your area, I know the navy has this , I would think the marines would as well.
Let us know if you can find anyone there.. maybe someone on this forum lives in your town and can advise you on who to talk to as well.

[ASB06]

He is being deployed on feb to iraq so im getting worried about that!  I have been trying to find support groups around but maybe im not looking in the right places!

[Jasmine205]

Marines are the front line guys.. So I understand your worries and if he has lots of tours, the stress of it all will get to him too.
Do you know if he has to be sent anywhere soon? And maybe you could get him to give you stats on his companies casualties.. That much in some small way comfort you.
But most definitely talk to him about your worries, and I'm sure there has to be some military support group there as well that you could join and talk with other women in your town.

[ASB06]

Im worried about the danger of his job

[pertykitty]

the wife of a military man can be very difficult.  they are gone.  they might not be as open as you want them to.  you have to do many things alone and it can be very exhausting especially when kids are involved.  however its one of those things you are very proud to be.  what is it you want to discuss?  i have been a navy wife for about 3 yrs now and he was gone for about 12 months total.out of the 16 months this past june. he missed the first 7 months of my pg, and left when she was 8 weeks old for another 4 months.  if you arent married yet and dont have kids, its something you have to seriously consider.  

many marriages dont last.  not because they dont want to but because of the difficulty of doing it all alone.  if you need a man to be around 7 days a week you better reconsider this relationship.  if you love him with all your heart and would do anything to make it work then maybe you will make it!  talk away, i dont have many years of experience but i have enough.

[Jasmine205]

My 2nd bf was in the navy. And was gone on loads of Nato Tours, some that lasted 6 months witha leave of two weeks in the midst of it.

Are you concerned about the time away from you, or the danger of his job?

[momagain59]

There are military forums that you can go on to find other people in your situation. Just search military forum and you will find one. My son is in the Airforce and I have alot of respect for his wife. It is not an easy position to be in at times.