My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 years. At one point we lived together but I moved out because we had too many other issues in our lives that needed to be resolved, and living together wasnt healthy for either of us. He recently told me he wants to try to have a baby next year. I asked him why he wants to have a child before we get married and he said, "I dont know, I just dont." He said he wants to have a child before he's not able to have one anymore. He wants to go to the doc and get sperm checked and all that...his family has some history of health issues and he is afraid. We are both in our mid-30s and I know the clock is ticking. I want a child with him but I have a traditional picture in my head, marriage first, kids after...Im reluctant, and unsure because he doesnt have a good reason for me...we love each other, but im scared.