Was my Girlfriend's Drink Spiked?

[gyokushin]

Hey all,

Im not entirely sure where to post this, as i dont really no what caused it, just need to share it with people to see what it might have been....

My girlfriend came back the other night after going out with her friends. She didnt seem that drunk at all, but was stressing out about guys coming on to her and how she hated the attention and just wanted to be left alone to dance with her friend. She also said that guys kept on buying her drinks and she didnt want them. It was like this for a few hours, even after we went to bed.

Its strange, she is normally a really happy, positive and thoughtful person, and would have hugged me when she came in, but its like she didnt want anything to do with me at all, i thought it was because she was stressing out so much, so i just let her stress while not forcing her.

The scary thing was that as we were trying to get to sleep, she was being really moody and negative, i tried sleeping and she wouldnt let me, tried going away but she called me back. Then she started to have a go at me and say that our relationship wasnt working, saying a lot of nasty and hurtful things. We basically had a one sided argument for about an hour where she was saying that we are never going to get along and should split up. It actually got to a point when she ended our relationship, saying that she'd always think fondly of me but its not going to work.

But then, and the only way to describe it, is that she woke up! Massive smile on her face, happy to see me, telling me she loved me, and didnt remember a thing. She couldnt beleive that she was saying all of that, and was really upset that she hurt me.

For a few times after, as she was drifting off to sleep, she started to go into that state again, but no where near as bad as before. I dont know wether she was actually asleep when she was saying all this stuff, cause her eyes were open and she was talking properly. But it did seem like she was shifting between states. It seemed like whatever it was, brought out her bad side and played on her insecurities and it wasnt my girlfriend that i know. But it was like whatever happened was wearing off.

In the morning, she said she didnt feel hungover, just wrecked and doesnt remember anything, even how she got back to mine. She reckons it must have been something else.

Ive seen her completley wasted on alchohol before and it wasnt that, ive also seen her go without sleep for ages, and while she can be grumpy and negative, has never ever done anything like this.

I'm just wondering if anyone knows what could of caused this? If this is a typical reaction to a certain drug that her drink could have been spiked with? or anything else?

It was one of the weirdest and scariest things ive ever seen anyone do :(

Thanks

[jo929]

i have seen this happen before it is loke dr jekkel and dr hyde no i do not think her drink was spiked because i have been right with this person when it happened you really do not know how much she drank this friend i thought had not had much to drink then after some more you would not have known her yhe change was almost to much but i went with her several times and i watchd but i did not know that she had drank some before we started the beer did not seem to bother her but when the strong stuff was down she turned on me like you would not beleive also i had a male friend one minute smiliny aftera period of time whamo  he was a different person no i do not beleive her drink was spiked alcohol can do this  if i may make a suggestion   why not leave the alcohol alone for awile and then you will know for sure   lots luck   jo

[gyokushin]

Cheers for the comments.

We are still talking about it loads, and we both know that something was up as it simply wasnt her normal behaviour. That and the almost instant change back to normal. For now we're putting it down as a one off incident of her drink being spiked, but we both kind of know that it might have not been that and it might happen again. If it does, then we will both deal with it together :)

Yep, comunication is key and it makes for a great relationhsip :) Esp when things go wrong.

The blackout thing is really interesting slow_healer, as she does have a history of heavy drinking (before i met her). She doesnt really drink that much since we started going out though, but probably a lot more than me still. It kind of makes more sense than her drink being spiked, and fits with the waking up thing. I really hope it doesnt happen again, but if it does i guess i know what to expect...

Thanks

[Talz]

I had a friend who's drink was spiked... and she was out of it.. she was not in the state to argue, she was just all weird.. if you think about it, people spike drinks because they want you to be groggy and willing to give them what they want...right? A spiked drink would not make you really argumentative...

Seems like she might have been in that weird drunk mode that people get into. It's really hard to explain.. i rememeber I had a night where I was drinking and all these men were hitting on me and I felt gross but at the same time it made me think.. wow.. all these guys want me.. maybe ther eis something better out there for me..
I came home and since I was a little drunk I started an argument with my boyfriend for no reason...
The next day I woke up and I felt sooo stupid.. because I didnt mean ANYTHING i said..
I fessed up and told him that I was just a mess.. and I apologized.. it was just a stupid drunk moment.. I havent drank since lol..

Maybe talk to her more about this...

I think that would be best..
communication is key!!!

There is also another situation but I doubt it...
Ill tell you anyways...
Maybe she did someting with some guy that night.. and freaked out over it... and the next day she didnt want to think abut it. so she said she doesnt remember what happened..

Either or, hope this helps. :)

[slow_healer]

I agree with Rockrose - if someone had spiked her drink, they wouldn't have used something to make her more riled up. If I were you I would talk to her about this episode - it sounds like a blackout, possibly the result of a history of heavy alcohol use (maybe not logging truck driver heavy, but heavy for her body type). This may be a one time event and I hope it is. However, the only people I've known to blackout and act quite harmful during those episodes are those with alcohol problems - serious or not is in the eye of the beholder. It may not feel serious to her, but it will become more serious for you IF it keeps happening. Just because she doesn't remember is no excuse. I really hope it was a one time thing, and I apologize if I'm grossly over-generalizing.

I'm not saying that your girlfriend is an alcoholic, but she should be aware of what is happening and what she's doing when she "just can't remember". Hope this helps.

[dove3053]

It's very possible her drink was spiked. I think it happened to me a few years back. I had only 2 drinks and some guy offered me a ride home because all of a sudden I could hardly stand. I remember that I could hardly walk to the bus stop. I would advise her to always keep an eye on her drink or better yet not drink at all.

Dove

[gyokushin]

cheers for your reply RockRose,

I really dont think shes masks the drinking appearance, and she has definatly cut down a lot on the drinking front a lot recently. I really dont know how much she drunk, and it may be more than she realised. But your right, no-one can be sure of what happened. And yes, i think she is nearly on her period.

The lack of sleep thing, was that we kept each other up for two nights lol. She does work shifts aswell, so sometimes she doesn't get much sleep at all. She can get grumpy and a little argumentative, but as i said, no where near as bad as the other night.

I was thinking that maybe i should just let this go. But i guess i wouldnt be posting anything here if i didnt think that it might happen again. I guess i am a little worried about that.

Thanks

[RockRose]

One final question - why does she go without sleep "for ages"?  If she's not forced to do that because of a bizarre work schedule,  med school,  or something else that forces her not to sleep,  that's a concern . . . and a symptom.

Best wishes.

[RockRose]

gyo - it's hard to tell from a description on a bulletin board,  so please just take this as kind of general comments.  No one can know for sure what happened.

I don't think anyone spiked her drink.  I've never heard of a drink meant to make a woman groggy and pass out - make her argumentative and restless.  Anything is possible,  that seems unlikely.

It sounds like she was very drunk,  to me.  I know you say you've seen her completely drunk before,  but depending on what she was drinking,  and the timing of the drinking,  and other factors like is her period due in a couple days (eeks,  the PMS red flag!) could change that.

If she drinks often,  and a lot,  she could have learned to mask classic drinking appearance.  I've seen women really DRUNK,  and mean,   and they're not slurring their words or staggering.  They're just mean and they don't remember it the next day.  And they're hungover but they say they aren't because they're lying about drinking.

Another remote possibility is that she had a psychotic episode.  That seems unlikely.

Best wishes.  Good that you're not letting this go - I don't think in your relationship,  that this will be an isolated one time thing.