I want him back </3

[BrunetteBimbo]

I ache when im not with him, i feel so alone.
People say, you will move on, but everyday its getting worse, So right now, i aint seeing no light at the end of the tunnel.
He went out with her while we were still dating. He said her brothers were threating to attack him maybe kill him if he didnt, so he did.
I finished with him.
So right now he is going out with this girl - who is mad about him, from what i hear.
Me and the boy were on the phone a few days back, he spent half an hour telling me he loved me "he'd risk his life by finishing her and dating me" I said no </3 . I regret that now.
He was saying he doesnt like her in that way, he was mad about me.
I stuck with saying no, i wanted to spare the other girls feelings.
Now i just want him back, i dont give a crap how she feels or what people think of me.
Its been over 3 weeks since we broke up and everyday my love for him is getting stronger.

I really want him back, and i want to tell him how i feel, but if i do the whole, my heart aches, im empty without you, i want you back, ill just feel like a idiot.

Anyone got any advice on how i can let him know i want him back? </3

[showsover]

I've SOOOO been where you are. The biggest cure every time you miss him, or are thinking about him with sadness, is to VIVIDLY remember the times he treated you like DIRT, and ask yourself: “Is THAT what I REALLY WANT?”  Thats what I had to do. When the answer is NO – then keep that in your mind. It will replace the old pattern of putting him on a pedestal when he treated you way less than the way you deserve. It will also help you to replace the pain with the truth of the old relationship.
You can only attract according to what you believe you deserve, and I promise you that you WILL attract someone that is better for you once you really learn how to love and appreciate yourself.
peace.

[Soggymoggy]

Don't let him know.  He's made his choice, now he's wondering if he was right, and he's making sure you're still there as a back-up plan while making lame excuses to keep you interested and insecure.  From what you say, he's all talk and no action - you're only young, but he sooner you learn to judge people by their actions instead of their sentiments (ie, by something you can see instead of something unmeasurable), the better.

You need to sever all ties with him altogether, it's more difficult for you to heal with him still in the picture; it's like ripping the scab off a cut every day instead of just letting it scab and heal in one go.

I know you won't want to hear this, but you're only fourteen.  Trust me - much as it hurts now, this is nothing on the scale of things.  You need to learn from it and move on; if you let this guy continue to mess with you you'll regret it when you look back and see how much fun you missed out on.  Concentrate as having a much fun as possible, and drop this guy - he's not worth the worry.

Best of luck!

[SeriousSam]

“The world breaks everyone, and afterward, some are strong at the broken places.”

Ernest Hemingway

“If people bring so much courage to this world the world has to kill them to break them, so of course it kills them. The world breaks every one and afterward many are strong at the broken places. But those that will not break it kills. It kills the very good, and the very gentle, and the very brave impartially. If you are none of these you can be sure it will kill you too, but there will be no special hurry.”

Ernest Hemingway


I hope you don't mind the quotes but you can get over this and it will just make your successful relationships better.

[sweetpea03]

He chose to go with the other girl and leave you. He may have regrets now, but that was his decision. I would say just to get involved in other things to keep yourself busy. You aren't helping yourself by constantly dwelling on what could have been if he just stayed with you. Join a club or sports team, do something you enjoy. I know it's hard to get over someone. I cried for over a month and a half after my ex left me for another girl. And found out later he had been cheating on me with her when we were together. It will get better eventually. You just have to stay strong. I am now in a great relationship and am crazy about my boyfriend. I feel like your ex is making a lot of lame excuses for his actions. Good luck with everything.