Need affection

[Hooyo]

Hi I been married just under 2 years n together 4  years , I have a baby and another on the way, my husband is everything to me we are very close b love eachother n he's frat husband n father he tell me I'm beautiful and all that n makes me feel secure , but he's not affectionate if I wt upset about it then he will show affection to make me smile again as he dont like to see me sad but then goes back to being he's normal self he said he shows affection to me other way by support n caring n helping me which ia true but I crave affection where it's physical I like him to snog me, maybe get on top of me n show how much he want me n make love I guess i see affection in a more sexual way , since we got married he's not like that we have sex once a week ( I would like atleast 1 a night) n if wasn't for me making the effort to spice things up he would just do same thing everytine nothing new also I have to make myself come he don't enjoy even trying I can see it boring or a effort to him , I love him so much is he was more sexual n affectionate he be perfect I feel like I'm always frustrated :-( n j have told him how I feel he promise to change n says he loves me n im sexy but things stay the same even a snog right now would make me happy

[philsgal93]

Some ppl have the opposite prob. I cant keep my hubby away n if we had his way we wld do 2 or.3x a day so b glad.

[TTinKKerBBell]

Don't feel guilty and You are not being selfish!!  You and Hubby simply have different libido's and that's okay!!  I'm certain it happens often as People are different.  It's not about who's right and who's wrong, as You are Both right, each of You, to be who You are.  Two different People have come together to make a Family and share a Life that is going to have it's ups and downs (as We ALL do).  You and Hubby just need to find a way to make Your differences work together.  That's all - it can be done and You Will Live Happily Ever After!!
Good Luck To You.

[Hooyo]

i feel very guilty but also glad in a way i posted this ,i posted it when i was bit frustrated and couldnt sleep,but now thank to you guys i relise yes im being very selfish my husband is amazing n yes he is tired as he putting all he energy into looking after me (pregnant)and our baby plus working ,i guess the reason he dont come n snog me is because he is tired n  if we snog he feels it lead to sex ,i guess he feels if i come to snog him i always want more he would rather just hug ,n when he aint tired he does come to me for sex but i guess as i have high sex drive after a week waiting then it over quick as we not very active i feel bit frustrated still and i dont mastabate n not sure if i will yet as i feel bad but guess it better than giving him headache maybe if i back off from wanting sex he want to lay n kiss me without thinking i just want sex always and yes its very true atleast he good husband i know that peope always have faults n maybe it better this way i could be with someone who really horney n then dont respect me

thank to you all <3 now im going to hug my baby and tell him i love him

[specialmom]

I just want to add to what rockrose is saying--  you are at a tough point in life.  One little one and another on the way.  Raising a young family puts a lot of pressure on a man (and women too, don't get me wrong)---  and frankly, working as hard as one has to in order to raise and provide for kids can be tiring.  He's awesome in every other way and he may be using his energy that way.  

What happens when you take his hand, sit really close to him, etc.  You can instigate affection and get some when you need it, right?  

And rockrose has an excellent suggestion for you regarding other needs.  good luck

[RockRose]

Hooyo,  i think you're making it too hard for him.  Wanting sex at least one time a night is too much for any man to sustain and be healthy.  They can do it when the relationship is new,  but no man can have sex 1+ times each night and have the energy to get through the day after years of that.  

I think your demands have become daunting and intimidating to him.

I wonder if you could have sex the way he does,  and not seem so disappointed,  and maybe buy a vibrator?  

All couples have sex drives that don't match up perfectly - but I sense if you would accept from him what he gives easily,  things would be better.

Best wishes.  

[Hooyo]

Also he weakness is normally laying behind ne as he loves my *** before he couldn't ly behind me without wanting me   , now he avoids cudding me like that in bed n if he does n is hard he try to hide it with the quilt , n then he comes o me wanting sex when he needs a relese n as we don't make love much it's over quick b I'm left frustrated again plz what can I do :-(

[Hooyo]

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