Hey you all thanks for this much needed advice. I eventually talked with him yesterday and I have gotten a better understanding. He told me that he want to go back to being friends for now until he figure out himself and a relationship. He said it was his fault that he rushed things so soon and that he was very sorry because he felt as if he wanted a relationship in the beginning. I told him i could not forgive him for doing that because he should have been sure from the beginning what he wanted and not wait 2 months to tell me that he wants to go back to being friends. So we are back to being friends and I have taken away all boyfriend privileges until he's sure and ready to move to that step. I also told lets wait another 3 months so and then possibly bring up relationship.
You've gotten good advice, I hope you get to sleeping better soon. Now you know to have the okay to go forward on the social media sites before bringing bf home for dinner. Blessings to you,. Let us know how you're feeling in the next days and weeks, okay? I agree that you be extra good to yourself to help you move onward, and upward.
Agree with SM.
Sounds like the relationship moved too fast and the social media disagreement just made things clearer for him.
I know you are hurting, but you will be ok.
Sweetie, 2 months is not a deep relationship. You were just getting to know each other. try not to move too quickly in relationships as they often fizzle out when that is the case.
Sorry you are hurting. Do some nice things for yourself and maybe just take a break from dating for a bit. good luck
Thanks a lot for this advice. I am deeply hurt by this. Words can't even explain how I am feeling right now! Why all of sudden he became so unsure?? Everything was going fine. I must move on and rebuild myself. I have never been let down like this before
Hi there and welcome. Well, I'm going to encourage you to actually look at this as a time period in life that is all about YOU. This is when you establish yourself in your career and as a true adult living on your own. Sure, a boyfriend is nice but should not be necessary.
I find a lot of young woman (and older) who really want, and I mean REALLY want a serious relationship often don't fine it because that desire gets in the way of making good decisions. Look at finding a life mate as a business proposition. You will love the person dearly, be sexually attracted to them but also must match all of the practical things that will make for a lasting relationship. And that takes time. And a big component to finding a great mate is being fully independent on your own.
So, build your life as YOU. Then add a man to it.
Dating IS to get to know if someone is a good fit or not. MOST of the people we date are not good fits. Again, figuring out what works and doesn't is part of what dating is really for. And if every guy you've dated has been telling YOU that you aren't a right fit for them, then you are ignoring your own part in the search for a partner. YOU need to also be scrutinizing these men and relationships with a harsh eye, judging if it could go further or not. It's okay to walk away from someone you aren't sure about. That is what you are SUPPOSED to do. I think it has become so important to you to HAVE a man that you have put aside the most important things. Finding the RIGHT man. Who cares what your family thinks but I bet you a million bucks, they'd rather see you broken up than just with a guy because you want to be with a guy.
I'd take some time off from dating and focus on you hon. good luck