Not preg related but no one else to turn to

[babywoods12]

I am not sure how to go about this and need some advice.... so i looked thru my bf phone last night while he was sleeping and a text saved as jazz popped up at 821pm telling my bf "it's okay bay. You just need sum rest" which my bf been working very long hours the last week or so....then she texted him again at around 11ish saying good night and she loved him??? I of course being 7 months pregnant went crazy and woke him out of his sleep to question who this woman was?? He says it's not for him. He says that he was with a friend that used his phone to contact this woman and she probably thinks that it was his friends phone?? This is the second time and second different number that another woman text my bfs phone talking about she loves him.  However my bf claiming that these texts from other women saying intimate stuff like this.....isn't the first time nor the second. It has happened prior to the last two times but those other times he says it's for his cousin or another one of his friends. I am so lost. I used to fall for it and we fight then make up and I never see the number again. I want to trust him but he's a kind of street guy, and deals with ppl selling weed and does his hustle on the side so ppl are always calling and texting his phone. But every once in awhile I catch him in texts like this and it's always the same story... that it's for one of his friends and not for him. Whenever he explains himself I feel that he is being honest and genuine but being pregnant now I can't help but wonder if I just been lying to myself thus whole time about these kind of situations??? We have been together for a Lil over five years now and am now expecting our first child. At this point I am ready to  walk out and be a single mother. It's not something I want but feel like I deserve so much better......what do you ladies think??

[thirdtimemum]

There's no way those texts would be for a 'friend' or 'cousin' who borrowed his phone, i mean, doesn't everybody have their own phone these days? And why would you text on somebody else's phone knowing full well you probably wouldn't be there to reply?? Definately sounds dodgy, and if your gut instinct tells you there is something not quite right, then listen to it. I know this is very hard being pregnant and all, but there's no way you can live a life and raise a family with a man like this. Find somewhere to go, ask your family, and make a clean break from this jerk.

[Londres70]

And you are more worried about other women and not the fact he sells drugs?

[nonishy]

Everyone nowadays have their own cell phone. Even elementary school kids. So i don't see why a friend or cousin needs to use his phone.
Secondly, if he is doing stuff like selling weed on the side or interacting with people who do, then yes, you deserve better. You don't want this guy driving around with the baby in the back seat and get pulled over and searched and they find drugs on him. They will take the baby to cps. That's a quick way to have your baby taken from you.  
I think the text is for him, if it wasn't then you would find another text that said sorry wrong number, please stop texting me. But your not finding that in there.
Just pack up and leave, you know right from wrong.You need to do wwhat's best for you and the baby.

[JulieKuhnert]

Like everyone else has said, just leave him.  We as women tend to blame the other woman when our man is cheating, who really needs 100% of the  blame is your man.  He is in the committed relationship with you, not the other female.  Yes it would be nice if women would leave men I'm relationships alone, but if your man isn't allowing it, Then there would be nothing to worry about.  It all comes back to your man, he's the one 100% at fault. Hold him completely liable.

[nursegirl6572]

IMO, leave.  It's obvious he's lying, and he's used the same excuse how many times?  You probably just didn't WANT to believe he could be lying or unfaithful.

Sorry, but he doesn't sound like anyone worth putting yourself through drama for...not only the lying and likely cheating, but I agree with the above comment about the drug dealing, WHY would you want your child around that in ANY way?  Babies get caught up in drive by shootings every day.  

Confronting him probably isn't going to do much for you...I wouldn't even bother.  It will hurt for a while, but you'll heal, and at that time, you'll likely be breathing a HUGE sigh of relief that you got out when you did.

Good luck to you.

[Mrs_Adamez]

Hey i wanted2know where u were from if u dont mind me akin?

[stephannieluvv]

I'm sorry hun but on the real he's playing . That girl obviously isn't the only one bugging him , I mean yeah you could tell her to leave him alone but is he gonna leave her alone? You don't deserve that and your smarter than to keep believing him saying its for his cousin or friend. It might be hard to leave now but in the long run it could turn out to be the best thing that you could have ever done for yourself and your baby.

[pourmycoffee]

Leave. You'll be happier, its hard but its better for you and the baby. Do you want a child to grow up thinking that's how women are to be treated? Dont be silly, I trusted a guy to change his ways after he got caught and he ended up getting another woman pregnant while I was near birth for mine.. Your a smart girl don't let him use you

[Meqqoo]

You'll be fine in the end. Your making a choice for your own happiness. After this parts over all you need to do is stay busy and stay happy for your baby. I wish you the best of luck

[babywoods12]

I know guys. I am really starting to realize it now =( I actually called last night as well and she didn't pick up. But when I texted she responded. I was so crushed, I called her a couple of b***es but also added in the text that she got the wrong number. She then responded and said she knows she don't got the wrong number and I then said if that's not the case she got the wrong person and once again she responded confidently that she knows for a fact she does not have the wrong person either. I started balling crying and couldn't stop shaking..... He left for work early this morning at around 4am so I am just waiting now for him to come back to let him know that I am gonna leave him and he has to do something about it and once again prove that it wasn't for him....which i am kind of hesitant to either way cuz like i said this isn't the first time. And he says i can call the other guy too but i really don't know dude and thinks that either way it's his friend and his friend will lie for him regardless so it's kind of pointless.  And as for the girl I just feel like women these days are such hoes and can care less about me. Even if I call and tell her how I am pregnant and needs her to leave him alone...do you think she really care? Or Wil even leave him alone? I just feel like it'll make me look and feel even more stupid than I already do =( what if I made him change his number again??? Idk I am ready to leave. Bc i know me and this baby deserve so much better. but then again I am so scared and sad that I have to do this while pregnant. I don't know if I can bare the heartache.

[pourmycoffee]

If it walks like a duck and talks like a duck. Its a fkin duck. He's playing you and played you in the past

[JulieKuhnert]

Why would you want to be with a guy who deals drugs?  Do you want your child brought up in that environment?

[grquinn]

Ahhhhhhh what a situation! Tbh my fella is a street one and there phones are always going off, I feel bad if I question him about who he is on the phone to but I have never come across a girl on there. If I was you I would take a long hard think and not let 'love' blind you now this isn't the first time, and not the first time he has come out with some.excuse about who it is for... But its hard when you have these feelings for someone you want to believe what they are saying is true and no matter what people say, you will always do what you want just look after u and baby! Ourstreet fellas r different to us not sensative people no feelings! You either put up with it or leaveeeeeee

[Meqqoo]

Give him the option to be a man and change for you and your future family, if he can't change than he doesn't deserve to be around. Show him that you aren't playing games and that you have a baby to worry about, you don't deserve to see this. If you show him that you aren't gonna sit there and take it anymore, that he might lose you for real, he'll open his eyes.    

This was how my first pregnancy went, the father ended up getting another girl pregnant while we were together and I left him when my daughter was 1. He begged for me back but the kind of thing it put my daughter through to watch wasn't worth any of it

[KaidenRalie]

Sad case!!!!!! Smh!! Some men BOYS just wont get it. Its ALREADY hard out here as it is!!! Its sad. I pray all goes well for in this situation! But yea ill call too. Just to see!!

[San408]

Girl, he is playing you!! You are dumb not to see it, it's for his friend/cousin excuse is the oldest lie in the book!!! You need to dump him and find yourself someone that will appreciate and love you. If he is a street guy, He is never going to leave the game, run, run and never look back.

[jacobmax88]

If it was me I would ring the number ask her outright  if she is dating ur bf and does she realise he about to become a father u dnt need this crap right now x