Well he said he had a dregree in Culinary Arts and was working on his Associates in Business Management. He wanted to own his own restaurant and wanted us to co-owners. He had goals and aspirations, but his criminal background kind of interferred in them. But also the other thing that interferred with his goals was that he does not have his HS diploma, which Pam found when doing research on him. He has the potential to do go and be successful, if he gets his life straight. I wish him the best in life and much sucess even though he did me wrong.
I have been successful in my life with having my bachelor's and master's degrees funded with academic scholarships and grants. Having a career as a restaurant manager when I was 21. I will be graduating in May with my Masters Degree and beginning the rest of my life.
I have learned and this is what I told my ex-fiancee/bf. A man should complement a woman. We may want a man but we do not necessarily need them. If as a women we are sucessful and can hold our own, a man should be able to do the same. I do not know if he understands what I was saying, but I know. I have become a stronger person after what has happened and know that if a man can't be supportive of me regardless of if it is the soroity I am in or my educational goals.
Artemis, this is really hard on you. I'm sure in retrospect, you realize he wasn't a great guy. Men who focus on their girlfriends (massages, trips to the grocery store, etc.) but have nothing else really to recommend them, as men, are losers.
Next time, look for a guy who is primarily focused on his career, and has a nice family, and nice friends, and treats you with respect but doesn't necessarily focus his entire life on you early on. You want a guy who is focused on success, and who is kind to you.
From all that my friends and coworkers have discovered, I have to agree, he is a total and complete loser. A man that has to assault his ex and can
Artemis, I'm sorry you're going through all this ****. But I'm really curious.
He sounds like a total and complete loser. Were there any signs at all that he was a normal person? Like, did he have nice friends, a nice family, a good job, normal behavior, enough money, an intact checking account and credit cards, happy disposition, an acceptable place to live that was fairly clean, etc.?
I don't think you necessarily have to search anyone's background, you look for obvious signs right up front of a normal person, and a normal life. When you date a guy, meet his best friend, and you won't really need to look any further for an answer to his character.