First of, I want to say thank you for reading my post and offering help. It definitely helps.
This post goes along with my last post. So I won't go into too much detail. I dated a girl for 6 months. Got along great, had fun with her, etc. But, she has a lot of baggage. Been cheated on, failed marriage (not fully divorced either), family issues, etc. Red flags that I didn't take into consideration because I really liked her. We ended things 3 months ago. For the first two months we rarely spoke. We actually went a month without speaking at all. Well, a few weeks ago she started creeping back into my life. Added me on facebook, texting, etc. I was fine with it because I felt I was "over" her. I decided to invite her to my birthday bash coming up and she said she wanted to come but wanted to see how things were gonna turn out. She claimed "you may start dating someone, we may hate each other, we may love each other". I found it weird but didn't think too much of it. Well, the other night she reached out to me asking to see me. We had both been drinking so our judgment was off. She came over and one thing lead to another. She left the next day and everything seemed fine except my feelings for her came back. She asked me what my thoughts were and I made light of it. I cracked a joke about it and said I didn't have any thoughts. The next day she asked me again and I said, If you want to talk about how about we meet for a drink tonight. She declined because of plans but insisted on calling me instead. The phone call basically ended with her saying the reason she came over was because she missed me and wanted to see if there was anything there. She said after she left that she felt the same about me as she did when we stopped dating. That hurt but I didn't tell her. I just said, ok, no worries. She told me to keep in touch. Well, not long after I decided that I needed to rid myself of this girl and forget about her for good. So, I sent her a text saying that I think we should break all contact. I was decent about it and told her I wasn't trying to be disrespectful but I needed to look out for myself and I needed to move on. She understood and said it wasn't her intention to hurt me. That was it. I felt that it was something I needed to do because I know she would get lonely soon and reach out to me. I kind of feel embarrassed that I had to tell some cute, little girl to leave me alone but, I didn't know how else to handle it. This is new to me. My past relationships always ended on my terms. Now the tables have turned and maybe this is my karma. Haha, jk.
Now, my question is....Was it smart for me to cut off all contact with her? Does this really help forget about someone? Also, why did she feel the need to reach out to me again? Is she really confused or just a game player?
P.S. I did learn a lot from dating her. What things to look out for in a partner and not to let myself open up too quickly. So, I will take it as a lesson learned. I should've taken everyone's advice though and let this go the first time.