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Rules books
I know they have them for women regarding dating and men, I don't bother reading that stuff..to me its worthless and just game playing tricks. But I was curious, do they have similar books out for men to read? And if so what are the names of them..I want to take a look at one of the ones written for men towards how to snag a woman (lol) curious about somethings.
Do you believe you have to play games and trick someone into thinking you are someone you aren't to have them fall in love with you? I don't go for that kind of thing, I like honesty in men.. not some fake persona made to shine brightly and when upon a closer look is unbelieveably tarnished.
Do you believe you have to play games and trick someone into thinking you are someone you aren't to have them fall in love with you? I don't go for that kind of thing, I like honesty in men.. not some fake persona made to shine brightly and when upon a closer look is unbelieveably tarnished.
Men don't need any books. For some odd reason, women will go out with anything that walks upright, even if he's on death row.
I really don't get that - any guy who wants to have a girlfriend can just find one, no matter if he's a murderer or the worst abusive scum on Earth.
My guess is, those "rules" books are how to marry money, not just find a relationship.
And for guys, the corollary would be, how to marry looks. The answer is simple. Have money.
Hey. I could publish that. ;D
I really don't get that - any guy who wants to have a girlfriend can just find one, no matter if he's a murderer or the worst abusive scum on Earth.
My guess is, those "rules" books are how to marry money, not just find a relationship.
And for guys, the corollary would be, how to marry looks. The answer is simple. Have money.
Hey. I could publish that. ;D
I tried to find the one that maybe the male version of the "rules" for women but couldn't.
I know that there was one where men talked about women have various ladder rungs they use, and where they place men on that..friends or lovers.
I 100% agree, be yourself.. a huge set up for relationship failure is trying to pretend you are the perfect anything. It's just to much to keep up and its such a lie to yourself and whoever you may love or want to love.
The realness and flaws of someone makes them special too..and is something you can also love.
Maybe I have an old fashioned view of love in this the internet world.. where all can be retouched and made up... realness becomes a gem to treasure all the more nowadays.
I know that there was one where men talked about women have various ladder rungs they use, and where they place men on that..friends or lovers.
I 100% agree, be yourself.. a huge set up for relationship failure is trying to pretend you are the perfect anything. It's just to much to keep up and its such a lie to yourself and whoever you may love or want to love.
The realness and flaws of someone makes them special too..and is something you can also love.
Maybe I have an old fashioned view of love in this the internet world.. where all can be retouched and made up... realness becomes a gem to treasure all the more nowadays.
Ha ha! Mr. Bluntie :P If it was some big sports star telling you guys about it, I bet you would...lol
I'm not aware of any, but it must be inevitable that some exist out there - I'm sure a search on Amazon would uncover a few. I'd never buy one (even if I was in the dating market), if I came across one I might leaf through it out of curiosity but wouldn't pay any serious attention.
My opinion is to be yourself. OK, who you really are may not be exactly what every girl wants, but then if you pull a girl by pretending to be something else, then you either need to keep up the pretence indefinitely or the relationship will be pretty short-lived when you turn out not to be the person you were pretending to be. You might not pull so many being yourself, but you'll pull the right one. I wouldn't go for any game-playing either, but that's just me.
Having said that, I'm sure there are skills and tips plenty of men could find useful that don't involve game-playing or pretending to be someone else (e.g. remembering to maintain eye contact, giving each other turns to talk rather than monopolising the conversation, paying compliments etc.). And books that help you understand the opposite sex (e.g. Mars/Venus) probably help the short-term dating stage as well as the long-term relationship stage.
My opinion is to be yourself. OK, who you really are may not be exactly what every girl wants, but then if you pull a girl by pretending to be something else, then you either need to keep up the pretence indefinitely or the relationship will be pretty short-lived when you turn out not to be the person you were pretending to be. You might not pull so many being yourself, but you'll pull the right one. I wouldn't go for any game-playing either, but that's just me.
Having said that, I'm sure there are skills and tips plenty of men could find useful that don't involve game-playing or pretending to be someone else (e.g. remembering to maintain eye contact, giving each other turns to talk rather than monopolising the conversation, paying compliments etc.). And books that help you understand the opposite sex (e.g. Mars/Venus) probably help the short-term dating stage as well as the long-term relationship stage.
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