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1110919 tn?1279013613

SHOULD I DITCH HIM

The man in my life works away from home in the UK and abroad a lot, we only see each other as and when he is free, which is rarely, (we have known each other for 18 months)  when he phones me usually every two weeks all he wants is phone sex,  I  told him I want him by me,  but he says he will when he can, so we again have phone sex.  I dont want to loose him, but am I wasting my time waiting.???? Should I call it a day????
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973741 tn?1342342773
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Well, I feel bad to say this.  But only speaking to someone every two weeks is not a good sign.  It does not appear he is putting forth much effort.  I get that he is busy and travels abroad.  But . . . my husband manages international shipping for several companies and is gone a lot over seas as well.  He's still my husband and I speak with him every day.  So, when someone is committed-------- they will make the effort.  I do not think your friend is committed.  

I think you should be living life each and every day.  I would love for you to have a man who is 'really' in your life and will be there to do things with you, have real sex vs. phone sex, makes you feel loved on a regular basis.  All of the things that go with a day to day relationship.  It has been 18 months and I just don't think this is going to change.

So, I feel so bad saying that.  But-------- I think you have a happy ending ahead of you with someone else.  good luck
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13167 tn?1327194124
This is your choice.  He doesn't sound like he's going to change this relationship,  or that he events would like it to change,  so you have to ask yourself is this how you would like to live.  

I sure wouldn't.

Best wishes.
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