soo i just had a baby 6 weeks ago..

[Bree_05_15]

And I love my husband soo much but everyday my hubby is constantly trying to have sex or ** nd I'm glad he's sexually attracted to.me but I'm just not wanting to have sex lately! I have no idea y:( nd it ***** im just not gohorny or anything!but I feel bad cuz I'm constantly.turning him down..

[Bree_05_15]

Ya just ***** cuz I'm not in the mood I wish I was but I'm not he's going to get all mad

[Chima7]

A c-section involves actually cutting you open so I'm also not surprised that you're still having trouble. I had fibroid surgery in which they cut me open to remove a fibroid as big as a grapefruit so I know a little something about getting sliced open in the abdomen. It takes a while to get over it! I was off work for 8 weeks and it took about 3 months for me to feel like I was halfway normal again. It's painful and exhausting having an abdominal wound.

I still say that what you're feeling is totally normal and you should not feel bad. But as Vance said you should talk to your husband about it because he needs to understand what you're going through. If he gets mad or won't listen then you know what you're dealing with and you have to just keep concentrating in getting better and taking care of that baby.

[Vance2335]

Well I think you should talk to him about what you are feeling and maybe try to do something to get yourself in the mood and see what happens.

After birth hormones can be all messed up, so it may just take a little more time.

[Bree_05_15]

I had a c section sorry forgot to mention I tell him I'm just not in the mood. But still trys

[Chima7]

Is your husband totally clueless!?!? I'm not sure if that's healthy so soon after having a baby. I've never had a baby but I'm pretty sure you're supposed to wait for a little while to let your lady parts calm down a little bit. Having a baby is like trying to force a watermelon out of a keyhole and it causes some trauma down there! Is your husband REALLY that desperate that he would expect you to be able to do it so soon afterwards?. He sounds like he is not only clueless but selfish. I think he needs to understand what you've been through! Tell him to try passing a basketball through his urethra and then come see you when he "gets it".

And by the way, the reason why you're not into it right now is because you've just had a baby! Not only has your body been through a major trauma but your hormones are all over the place right now. Don't feel so bad about it and don't beat yourself up about it. What you're feeling is totally normal from what I've heard. Maybe if he helped you out with the baby and took a little responsibility off you so you could rest then you'd start feeling better a lot sooner. He needs to help you and he needs to stop being so selfish right now.