dont trust him

[randyboo]

when I first met him he had no lock on his phone as time goes by he puts on one and when I say something about it he takes it off,now he recently put back on one now before I told him only ppl who have something too hide lock there phones he sed it for me too trust him now the thing is at night he make sure it on vibrate and I will be in side with him and he would not be on the phone but from the time I step out like too go and buy something he will have or be on whats app,let me not forget to mention he had it on the charger,and from the time he hear me back he puts down the phone r put it back too charge.my question is why do I have too be gone for him too be messaging ppl and if I say anything about it he always have something too make me feel really stupid are like I paranoid.

[JakeS24]

Do you see who he is messaging?

[Nighthawk61]

I wouldn't stay with a man that made me feel like i was stupid for asking reasonable questions. And it is reasonable to ask why he only uses his phone when you are out. And it is reasonable to ask why he would need a lock on his phone. I agree with you, if there's nothing going on untoward, why then would you need to lock your phone? I'm sorry this is happening to you, I also know that you can't find Mr. Right, hanging out with Mr. Wrong.

Have faith and clear your heart for someone who believes in full transparency. (no locks on phones, no hiding conversations, no going out with single friends on boyz nights out to the bars picking up single girls, etc). Find someone with the same values and expectations as yourself and you'll find yourself a compatible mate. Trust me, there are good men with solid hearts out there looking for a gal like you. Trust in that.

[specialmom]

Hi there,  I'm sorry to hear this.  It's really hard to have a sincere relationship if you are always worried about 'what they are doing' behind your back.  If you can't trust him and that can't be resolved, I would say the relationship is probably one you should exit.  Making things work at all costs with someone that you don't trust isn't worth it to me.  I'm sorry though as I'm sure it hurts.  good luck

[Londres70]

dialoguewith is supposed to be dialogue with

[Londres70]

Well, the title of your post sums it up.............you don't trust him.
If you don't trust him then there is no relationship here.  

Why stay with someone you don't trust or doubt/question things he does?  Most importantly, why stay with someone who makes you feel paranoid and/or stupid if you try to dialoguewith him about your concerns?

[TTinKKerBBell]

I meant to say
So He must CHANGE His behavior
or You must accept it

[TTinKKerBBell]

Of course I don't know if He's hiding something - but I don't see that as the issue here.

You question His behavior PLUS He chooses not to change it EQUALS:

Trouble In Paradise

So
He must His behavior
OR
You must accept His behavior
OR
You leave the relationship.

Anything short or one of those three solutions is going to keep one of You unhappy.  In a good relationship - everyone needs to be happy

GoodLuck