What ex is telling his new girlfriend

[Rena0111]

Soo say your in a relationship with a man who is expecting a child. He tells you everything was great in his relationship with the mother of his child aside from them arguing. And that she is still his bestfriend. And one day tells you he is surprised because she has not contacted him in a few days. Tells you he doesn't believe in getting back with exs so you have nothing to worry about. Then one day you two are making up situations together like a "what would you do?" and he says "what if I was stranded somewhere and your car broke down?" Your response is " I don't know how to catch the bus." And he says "well (exs name) would jump on the bus no questions asked."

How would you feel about the situation?

[Rena0111]

We only talk maybe once a week when he is asking about our god daughter Or our son.. he knows EXACTLY how I feel. My family feels like I deserve the praise because I was by his side for five years and I am carrying his baby & they do not talk to him. I know some things I know because I talk to his mom everyday.

[RockRose]

I'm sorry,  it sounds like I'm blasting you.  I'm blasting him,  and this whole idea that it's fine to get a woman pregnant and then wander off and get with some booty call new girl and think everyone should be good with it.

Because you didn't grow up in an intact home,  I think you had lower expectations for what you should demand of a partner before you get pregnant.  

Again,  best wishes.

[RockRose]

He doesn't know you don't agree with him.  You consider him your best friend and you talk to him all the time on the phone,  and your family expects praises from him about you on his facebook page.  

In my family his name would be MUDDD.  No one would speak to him,  and he would get a summons for child support and be expected to go to court for possible visitation rights and we'd all be civil about the exchanges of kids,  but there would be no more "best friend" status for this guy.

Honey,  you're still happy about little bitty crumbs from his table like he thinks you're the kind who would hop a bus rather than need help.

I'm really sorry you're going through all this but I think you are letting him off way too lightly and not letting him feel how destructive his behavior is.

Best wishes for you.

[Rena0111]

He knows I don't agree with him. But I can't change his mind I can only try to better myself.

[Rena0111]

I was definitely not the easiest person to deal with while we were together. I was very negative and let little unnecessary things bother  me. I do not at all agree with his decision for us to not be together and work on things as a family since my parents were not together & it was very hard on me. But I also have to look back at things I have done wrong.. we were together for five years & he was an amazing boyfriend. I know he sounds like a complete a**.. he just got a better job so he can help me more with our son.

[RockRose]

When we had behavior rules everything was so much easier.  :(  

There were roles and rules.  

I don't know how you navigate through this trying to figure out your place in this impossible mess.

How the ex girlfriend who is currently pregnant,  and how the current unpregnant girlfriend should be treated by family and friends and by the dog who created this mess.

And I don't "respect" his decision at all.  I really disrespect it.  What a scum.  

And I don't know why women in your position try to be so accommodating to this miserable behavior.  Why are you letting him get away with this without kicking him completely to the curb?