..And We have only be together for 6months!

[YoungOne91]

Hello...


I am turning 22 on July 1st. My Boyfriend is 22

  On January,13th,2013. I broke up with my boyfriend of almost 4 years. From November till December our relationship was already slipping. During the time I was friends with another guy. Nothing more...we liked each other though but that was merely put only hold because...I had a boyfriend.

Not to long after I got into a relationship with the other guy. In the beginning of it all I was insanely happy...

He calls me

beautiful all the time; Pretty Girl.. his pretty baby, buy's me flowers, always has my back, fixes my car, make sure I get to work okay, we have literally talked everyday from October 2nd till today, for a period of 8+ hours or just a mere 20mintues. Not one SINGLE day missed.

My parents love him... My family adores him..his mom loves me.


We sleep together..wake up together..had sex already.. He pretty much knows alot about me in such a short amount of time..
I've opened up to him in a way that I never have with my ex...But I have NO faith in our relationship I have so much doubt.

They're are so many things...I love about him..and so many things I dislike

I dont like the fact that he HAS to cuss..
I dont like the fact the he is HARSH about things
I dont like how he sometimes speaks to me
I dont like the fact of how he is TO comfortable with me
I feel like I cant talk to him because he gets so DEFENSIVE
I dont like the fact the he likes being mean..and thinks its fun

and I've told him little to none of this ... he knows I feel as if I can't talk to him and he apologized profusely and told me he would do better about allowing me to be able to open up to him about things..

but he still gets hostile and defensive...he doesn't think so...he doesn't see it...hear it... but he raises his voice...

I'm scared to say anymore of this to him because I don't want to always seem like I am ALWAYS pin pointing the wrong he does... I am god honestly not trying to...

I am just not as happy as I use to be.. not even a little. I feel like our relationship has changed he's not the same person I first met.. He never use to cuss..maybe on occasion..but now he's goes on and on and I don't like it. .I use to be able to talk to him about EVERYTHING...he never got defensive... He was comfortable back then to..but still I was new to him...he always use to speak to me sweetly and now raises his voice and thinks nothing of it and when I try to tell him..he just says.. 'Im not'


I
am
not
happy
like
I
Was

...and I don't know what to do????Idont want to break up..I just want those things to go away.. I want the person back the I met in october... Back then he was always said, "This is me...I'm not gonna change..."

he changed and everyday I literally think about this... and I dwell...

He claims he's in love with me...and i am not in love with him but I do love and care for him...

but with all the stuff I listed I cannot find it in my heart to keep doing this everyday..  I cant handle his attitude and all of the things he is sometimes....should I tell him..Should I leave. I feel like this relationship wont work out.

Advice... Please:(

[specialmom]

Hi there.  I really advocate that we should be super practical when choosing a mate.  I personally don't think that when there are huge problems early on that it bodes well for the future.  There are plenty of people to love in the world that we shouldn't force a relationship with someone that we just aren't compatible with or there are red flags.  

Your gut and brain knows what to do.  Now you just need to do it so you can move on and eventually find the RIGHT person.  good luck and peace

[shamommy]

you know, I had some problems at the beginning of my relationship
we had a lot of issues some were like your and I thought it just wasn't
going to work.. I had some issues of my own but I left and we ended up
back together and he changed not write away but he got it together to
were he knows me and how I am and we really just know each other
now and were happy we have our fights and arguments well now that im pregnant ;) . but you say its just been 6months I think yahll just don't know
each other yet yahll probley aren't really in love but just love some things
yahll do for each other. I say you get to know him more let him know if
he doesn't change then your going to leave and if you give him another chance and it seems hes getting it then work at it some more, if he still the
same then maybe its just not ment to be. :). It doesn't haft to be a total
crash, you have to go threw things and get threw things to be close and
one with your Lover.

good luck

[TTinKKerBBell]

You answered Your own question(s) here in Your last paragraph:

"I cannot find it in my heart to keep doing this every day"
"I can't handle His attitude and all of the things He is sometimes"
"I feel like this relationship won't work out"

YourSelf is telling YourSelf what You should do.  Listen to YourSelf.

Good Luck

[AnnieBrooke]

He's telling you the truth when he says his negativity and his mouth are "who he is."  Do yourself a favor and believe him.  

Move on, you're in better company alone than when in his presence.  Take it easy; figure out why you accommodated and accommodated. This guy is not even trying to hide his true unpleasant nature, he must figure you're reeled in and he doesn't have to think about all that fakey courtship stuff any more.  Don't keep yourself hooked by kidding yourself that he might change.

[lafaye34]

Do what is best for your well-being. You want someone who respects you as person and not treat you harshly or say things that bother you. If the bad out weighs the good, its time to say goodbye.

[RockRose]

I don't think he changed.  I think he managed to hide his mean,  nasty personality from you for a little while.