Where not even together. but i could be pregnent with is child

[Annajones]

Hey i'm Anna

I just moved into a shared house 2 months ago, i live with 3 guys ad including myself 3 girls.
the 3 guys are, Chris ( has a GF / also landlord / age 26)  Steven ( has a GF / 25 )  Danny ( single / 20 )
the 3 girls are, Me ( single, 19/20)  miranda ( has a BF / 20 ) Sabrina ( single / 24 )

well bet you dont guess what am about to tell you know.. lol
one night my landord (chris) comes home at like 5am from a night out waking me up for taxi money because he lost his wallet. anyways he was giving me lots of hugs beging very close and the  jumped int my bed.. I didnt let anything happen and i just slept in his room. The next morning around half 6ish steven comes to wake chris up for work only to find me in the bed, i quickly told him chris slept in my room so 10 mins after steven gose to get chris, chris comes in his room to wake me up again by climing into bed with me in it and trying to kiss me. i didnt let it happe and i could feel if i did how it would end up.. so i said no its not right you have a GF. So anyways he didnt remeber that bit which was a releafe. but for days after that i was forgetful couldnt sleep and couldnt stop thinking about him and just wished i would have said yes, i thourght that might have been bad me wanting it to happen..

anyways me, sabrina went out and was meeting chris while we was out because he was out also. anyways he was PISSED!! and he kept feeling my bum and i was just tryin to look after him  and then he was like i dont even find you attrative and then tryed to kiss me so i wa like hmm what an ars.. and felt sorta hurt but still didnt want to just leave him by him self in that state.. anyways the night went on and i came to reolise the more he was flirting and all over me and then saying am not sexy or sttractive and he dosnt want sex with me was just his way of telling himself to be good. anyways he grow more close to me and it got to mirning and  was elttin it happen by that point and then by the time we got home he wasnt so much all over the place and seemed more sober..
wesat watching tv together and he was sat next to me.. then our house mate sabrina went to bed and then we both didnt want it to happen coz like i said no.. and he was like its not like we are having sex  but then that where it went and it was so amazing and passionat and i have never felt so free and that much passion before.. and now my feelings have grown for him.. not long ag before any of this started i didnt reolise how much i found him attrative because i just thourght he is way out of my league.. but now am trying not to get too attched because snce the morning or should i say later on that mornng i was gettin ready for work wishing i didnt have to go coz i wanted to just lay in bed with him and just pretend we wasnt doing anything wrong and just carry on as if there was no problems.. because thats what it felt like.. but as i was makin a coffee he came in to go to his own room.. he gave me a kiss and went to his bed. then i got a text asking if i felt alright and that i must be feelin wprse than him coz i had less sleep and then said he felt guilty and bad i said i dont really know what to say about that ( i dont regret it, it was amazing) as bad as that sounds. but since then hes still be seeing his GF. and i dont know what to do.. i man hes been seeing her more since be relucton to tell me whos hes going to see or who hes with 9 i think hes just tryin to be nice) but i just dont get him.. before i even knew he liked me, he didnt have a nice thing to say about his relationship or sarah. but he is still with her , and now i thourght maybe he might be thinkig of breakin up wi her but it just seems like hes carryin on as normal..

i have an appointment to go to tomorrow at 4pm to have a chat with the doctors. part of me thinks i could be/ but the other half just things it could be my mind playin tricks.. i didnt even give it a thourght untill the say after us having sex i asked if the doctors was open because i came on my monthly and i thourght right get the injection.. but then he text me asking if i was ok and why i asked about the doctors and then i reolised what it must have sounded and then got me thinking because my belly is realllly!! bloated and i dont usualy get it and ive been eating lots more and also just foud it odd how i started HOURS after sex but during didnt have any signs of my peirod..

i just dont know what to do, am trying not to let the fact that he is still with sarah even tho part of me is like what if  and why is he with her if he dsnt seem to like her and what if this has made him reolise and if am pregnent and i spoil everyting .. its all rubish  but i love living with him and having the same humour and ways

[mami1323]

Because they want their cake and eat it to.  They lack moral values and get caught up in everything, because they are young and aren't ready for a real committed relationship but just don't want to let go of what they have.  There are so many reasons.  You just have to be a different type of female and not fall for that line.

[Annajones]

I just dont understand them..

If they dont want to be with some one why stay with them and cheat?

or if they do want to be with them, Why cheat ??

it just dosnt make sence..

[MissmyAngel]

I agree with evereyone else. Some guys are just like that. They dont care about others feelings. You are best to stay far away from him. He is the type of guy who wont take no for an answer. Be glad your not with him. YOU are out of HIS league for realizing that.

[mami1323]

He bad talked Sarah so that you would think he wasn't that into her so you would sleep with him. He's with her because he wants to be not because he gets anything from her. Just be grateful that he isn't your boyfriend and move on. I would look for a new place as well.

[Judy246]

I'm glad you realized that Sarah was not the problem, but he is. He is an opportunist and will use and dispose women for his sexual needs and keep running back to her. If he approaches you and tempts you, just remember all he put you through and yet, is still with Sarah. Just tell him HE was a mistake and it ain't gonna happen again then run for the hills as far way from him as you can. Good Luck

[Annajones]

Thanks guys =]  

yeah he is a no good cheater.. ive reolised that in the last few days.. well just the fact hes still with her and also that she is round in his room this very moment. when i saw her i kinda hated! him. =/   i'm defo not going there again, i wasnt gonna let it happen again anyways but i do know what am gonna say to him if he trys it again.

I feel bad for sarah =/ and what me and chris did. the way hes been putting it was that she was horid and he didnt like her ( drink and sober ) he said that. But now i know its him either being a childish scard little boy or he is using her for smething. But am not gonna get into, its not like i can do anything about it, nore is it y place.

so yeah not gonna get my self wraped up in it  just hope either he reolises or she dose.

thanks for all your help and giving me someone totalk to about all this rubbish lol
xxx

[Judy246]

Your lucky this time. It would have been quite a mess for you, him, g/f, other roomates, familes, etc. Also, never feel that any man is "out of your league". You are good enough for the very best out there, but next time set your eyes on someone who is not exclusive with someone else and will love you for you. He will respect you and be faithful. If this guy has cheated on his g/f, he will do it again and it's just a matter of time that he will be caught. Consider yourself fortunate all the way around. It will be awkward living among him, so as other have, i will also recommend that you move out. Just a thought...Good Luck, Judy

[specialmom]

Oh, I am so glad you are not pregnant.  That would have been difficult to overcome with an easy answer.  Your landlord is NOT out of your league.  He is a cheater and a player . . .  you most certainly can do better than that!!!  Good luck-----  you seem to be headed in the right direction!

[Annajones]

Hey.

well i went to the doctors today to chat about it and he said if i started the day after then it usualy means i'm not! =] thank god.

And i will be making it just the one time, i dont know his GF but that osnt make it any better or less wrong.. and wasnt planning on letting it happen again and that means wont be going on anyore night outs together or at least make sure Seven is there ( Steven being another house mate but also one of chris's mates)  
So then chris wont be all over me if steven is there lol

I do wish he didnt have a GF tho. and still am shocked he even liked me in the slightest, i thourght he was out of my league.. =/ pretty rubbish

But up side i'm not pregnent =]

[penswriter]

it may be a good idea to start looking for a new place to live as well.

[imanaddict]

I agree with my girl mami here! She's totally on point as usual! Anna, don't allow yourself to be used any longer by this guy. I know it's going to be hard because you are roommates, but you need to do what's right for yourself and his girlfriend. Don't you know about the girl code?? =)

I seriously hope you aren't pregnant because I'd hate to be in your shoes if it turns out you are. You will have all kinds of drama to deal with on top of pregnancy hormones raging! Not fun!! I hope it all works out for you and please keep us posted on what happens.

[mami1323]

I'm going to tell it like it is here and cut through the bs. Please don't take offense to this but basically you are just an easy lay to him. You're there when he's horny basically. The sex is always good when its wrong. You know it is seeing he has a girlfriend. Which is completely wrong on both your parts. I'm sure you know her and I don't think you would want it done to you if the rolls were reversed. He's acting like nothing because he's not trying to leave his girlfriend for you but believe me the next time he wants sex and you're around and she's not I can guarantee he will be climbing into your bed again. You have to be the strong one here and say no or else your feelings will get more wrapped up into him and you will get more hurt. I don't know if you're pregnant but I hope you're not because there will be serious drama your way if you are. Good luck.

[Annajones]

lol I know that.i just wanted advice for both sides, relationship and the Test <3

[penswriter]

Your doc won't need the full story. just say what rock said "I need a pregnancy test." doctors don't really give a hoot who it is and how it happened. (unless there's a chance for std's then say " i need a pregnancy and std test."

[Annajones]

Haha! Sorry i do ramble alot when am trying to get the full story out. or trying to explain to the full, just to make sure people understand the full story.

but it wasnt just the test i am confused about, it was Him as well.

but thanks
xxx

[RockRose]

This is about the most rambling,  nonsensical post I've ever read.

When you go to the doctor tomorrow,  cut to the chase.  "I want a pregnancy test".  

Then, after that happens and you get the results,  go from there.  

[Annajones]

Hey, thanks for being realy understanding.. and thanks for your advice. I will do just that =] thaks again xxx

[Judy246]

You both did wrong and crossed lines here, but you know that. He has a gf and you knew it. If you had unprotected sex, you risk an unwanted pregnancy, the spread of STD's or HIV, because he seems permiscuous and unfaithful and who knows who else he has been sleeping with, having unprotected sex. If you feel bloated and are eating along, that can also be a symptom that your period is coming. If you think your pregnant, purchase a pregnancy test from a drug store and you both have just made your life a bit more complicated.

Always treat people the way you want to be treated and respect people's relationship. If he want's to be with you, he will break up with her and be with you, but only time will tell. I believe in Karma, what goes around comes around, so I sense a lot of drama ahead.

[specialmom]

Hm . . .  first, home pregnancy tests are very accurate these days and you can get them at any drug store.  They work at 10 days past the usual day of your period.  So, I'd think about when your last period was and count out 5 1/2 to 6 weeks (where you are probably at now or in a few days) and you could take a test.  If you've already made a drs appt, they will draw your blood and you will know pretty quickly.  

I am guessing that you are having feelings with Steve the landlord, wish he didn't have a girlfriend, and are confused by his actions torwards you.  I don't know this------  but sometimes men will find us very interesting and attractive at the eleventh hour.  And he may very well find you attractive and interesting, but then acts like just friends during daylight hours.  That is called a hook up.  Happens all the time.  Unfortunately, he has a girlfriend making his hook up not so nice.  Now, he may be unhappy in his relationship (and he clearly isn't very committed to her)--------  he may very well find you to be the woman he wants to date . . . but until he breaks it off with his girlfriend and treats you as such, I'd not give into his advances.  No matter how much you like him and no matter how good the sex is.  Could be awkward as a roommate situation makes things a little more complicated.  He may come around and leave his girlfriend for you---------  great sex can do that.  But I wouldn't pine away for it.  Go about your business doing your own thing and see what happens.  Keep your bedroom door closed at night.  All this, of course, is just my opinion.  goodluck