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which one!!
Im not in a relationship right now but I don't know who I want the first guy does nothing with his self stays wit his mom but, he does make me feel great when I'm around him but when I get mad at him I run to the other guy ik relationship have problem but that's what I seem to do so the second guy always excuse me of cheating even when I'm not always calling me lies when I'm telling the truth he has no job but he kinda scare me when he speak of putting his hands on me but ion know who should i be with I want to be with them both but the first guy sex doesn't last long but the second guy last great but he always saying crazy things afterwards who should I be with!!!
You need to focus on YourSelf. Understand what it is about You that causes You to attract to "jerks" (Your word, not mine. but I agree they sound like "jerks").
The world is full of nice guys. You need to understand why You are not setting higher standards in a partner.
I totally believe love is a CHOICE. We are in control of who we choose to love. Why "choose" poorly?
The world is full of nice guys. You need to understand why You are not setting higher standards in a partner.
I totally believe love is a CHOICE. We are in control of who we choose to love. Why "choose" poorly?
If you are having a problem deciding who you should stay with and run from one to the other one when there is a problem, then neither one is the right person for you to share your life with.
You can stay friends with them and make it clear to each one that there will be no sex and that you just want to stay on friendly terms only (if that is what you would like to do).
When the right person comes along, you will not be thinking "which one shall I be with". Sex is not the be all and end all to form a good and loving relationship.
Sounds to me like you are too available for these guys and they are doing nothing to nurture a loving relationship. They are doing nothing to win your love and they are "getting their cake and eating it".
If you break it off completely with the both and leave it for a few weeks, see what happens and which one will come chasing after you.
Sometimes the right person comes along when you least expect it. Start any relationship slowly and build up trust etc. Don't go having sex straight away. A relationship based purely on sex will not very long and the younger blokes are only interested in sex and not to form a steady and a long lasting relationship.
Best wishes.
You can stay friends with them and make it clear to each one that there will be no sex and that you just want to stay on friendly terms only (if that is what you would like to do).
When the right person comes along, you will not be thinking "which one shall I be with". Sex is not the be all and end all to form a good and loving relationship.
Sounds to me like you are too available for these guys and they are doing nothing to nurture a loving relationship. They are doing nothing to win your love and they are "getting their cake and eating it".
If you break it off completely with the both and leave it for a few weeks, see what happens and which one will come chasing after you.
Sometimes the right person comes along when you least expect it. Start any relationship slowly and build up trust etc. Don't go having sex straight away. A relationship based purely on sex will not very long and the younger blokes are only interested in sex and not to form a steady and a long lasting relationship.
Best wishes.
I agree with Chima.
You need to be by yourself for a while and work on being independent, self sufficient and secure in yourself before even thinking about finding another guy. You need to be okay with yourself before you can be okay in a relationship.
You need to be by yourself for a while and work on being independent, self sufficient and secure in yourself before even thinking about finding another guy. You need to be okay with yourself before you can be okay in a relationship.
Why do you hate yourself so much that you would think that's the best you can do? I realize a lot if young girls have insecurity problems but for you to believe that those two losers are the best you can find is very very troubling. Both of them are very bad for you for different reasons but those reasons are strong reasons which should make you break it off with both of them and spend some time focusing on yourself.
You don't need a boyfriend you need a long time for self reflection and soul searching. Doing that is impossible when you're in a relationship. Get rid of both of them and do something good for you for a change.
You don't need a boyfriend you need a long time for self reflection and soul searching. Doing that is impossible when you're in a relationship. Get rid of both of them and do something good for you for a change.
Firstly, you are worth more than you're giving yourself credit for. You do not deserve to be manipulated or made to feel worthless. The reason these "men" act this way toward you is because they have nothing going for themselves & figure it's okay to take their failure/frustration out on you.
Second, if you are not in a relationship with either one, what is guy #2 got his panties up in a bunch about? You can't cheat on someone you're not committed to! Neither of them have jobs. Guy #1 isn't the one because no matter how mad you get you would not run to someone else. Guy #2 is clearly a class A p r i c k.
Thirdly, sex is not a good enough reason to stay/want to be with someone. Women often confuse sex with love & it gets us into poo loads of trouble at times.
Last but not least.. Maybe if you stopped looking for a relationship,someone worthy of you might actually have a chance to prove he's right for you.
In my experience, when i tried getting away from losers, that's all i attracted. Took me 2 years of focusing on myself, my job, my life til someone worthy found me.
Good luck :)
Second, if you are not in a relationship with either one, what is guy #2 got his panties up in a bunch about? You can't cheat on someone you're not committed to! Neither of them have jobs. Guy #1 isn't the one because no matter how mad you get you would not run to someone else. Guy #2 is clearly a class A p r i c k.
Thirdly, sex is not a good enough reason to stay/want to be with someone. Women often confuse sex with love & it gets us into poo loads of trouble at times.
Last but not least.. Maybe if you stopped looking for a relationship,someone worthy of you might actually have a chance to prove he's right for you.
In my experience, when i tried getting away from losers, that's all i attracted. Took me 2 years of focusing on myself, my job, my life til someone worthy found me.
Good luck :)
Yea but when I leave them both I only seem to meet jerks who either lie about there age or everything else
Yep! I agree with Tink.
Secondly, being with two guys at the same time is kind of going to end nowhere good, especially because it sounds as though there is an understanding of some kind of committment on both sides.
You get accused of cheating and say you're not, but you kind of are.
Ditch them both and start over, brand new, with higher expectations.
Good luck!
Secondly, being with two guys at the same time is kind of going to end nowhere good, especially because it sounds as though there is an understanding of some kind of committment on both sides.
You get accused of cheating and say you're not, but you kind of are.
Ditch them both and start over, brand new, with higher expectations.
Good luck!
You don't know which of these guys You want a relationship with, yet You would risk pregnancy????!!!!
My personal opinion is You are asking the wrong question here.
First and foremost, You should protect YourSelf from pregnancy with either of these guys. I agree with everyone here - they both sound poor as a Partner..... let alone as a Parent!!
My personal opinion is You are asking the wrong question here.
First and foremost, You should protect YourSelf from pregnancy with either of these guys. I agree with everyone here - they both sound poor as a Partner..... let alone as a Parent!!
Sorry to say but they both sound like they totally stink. It's like asking, Would you rather eat this maggoty cheeseburger or this puke filled pea soup? Same thing, both are totally gross and not even worth a second look. Ditch both of these losers and find someone better.
I'm sorry I kinda agree with the person above me second guy shouldn't be saying scary stuff could lead to.abusing u
.. and other guy if u don't have good sex life moat likely won't last and if it does u won't be happy .becuz of the sex I'm not saying sex is everything but it does count nd u should find someone who can make u happy(: def find someone with a job(:
.. and other guy if u don't have good sex life moat likely won't last and if it does u won't be happy .becuz of the sex I'm not saying sex is everything but it does count nd u should find someone who can make u happy(: def find someone with a job(:
I'm sorry I kinda agree with the person above me second guy shouldn't be saying scary stuff could lead to.abusing u
.. and other guy if u don't have good sex life moat likely won't last and if it does u won't be happy .becuz of the sex I'm not saying sex is everything but it does count nd u should find someone who can make u happy(: def find someone with a job(:
.. and other guy if u don't have good sex life moat likely won't last and if it does u won't be happy .becuz of the sex I'm not saying sex is everything but it does count nd u should find someone who can make u happy(: def find someone with a job(:
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