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Wierd?? Or is it just me?
Ok, so i had just started dating this guy 2 wks ago. He is really sweet, and caring and he compliments me ALL THE TIME! im not used to it at all, and it takes me by surprise that someone could actually call me beautiful, or gorgeous. He even says he loves me..Thats where it is wierd to me. because i dont know if he is lying or if it is true? he is my age, which is 18. I wonder if it is just me overreacting because im not used to it? any comments or advice would be great! thanks!
Haha Wow! It's so interesting how much we all have in common! My partner told me he loved me around a week into our relationship! I knew he was genuine, but I was a little weary. I was worried it might be happening all too fast. Although I knew it felt really good to be with him. I let down my guard and let him into my heart. We moved in with each other during our second week. We spend every day together, and click really well. We are very much in love with each other and plan on spending our lives together.
I didn't want to mention this before, because I didn't want to get Greeneyedbeauty's hopes up. They are only 18, and we all know how guys that age are! If she's posting this, it's because she's a bit weary, and wants to make the right decision. She's one step ahead then most girls her age. I really do hope that things work out with this guy!
I didn't want to mention this before, because I didn't want to get Greeneyedbeauty's hopes up. They are only 18, and we all know how guys that age are! If she's posting this, it's because she's a bit weary, and wants to make the right decision. She's one step ahead then most girls her age. I really do hope that things work out with this guy!
I have the exact reverse of this...I told my husband I loved him exactly 3 days after we met.
I had waited to have sex...I was about to turn 18, had graduated high school...met my husband..and it was like everything clicked for me.
I refused to have sex before that because I didn't want to get pregnant and I wanted to only sleep with the person I was going to marry...and even though I dated...a LOT...the only thing I ever did was seriously frustrate my boyfriends, lol.
But when my husband told me "I won't sleep with you until you're in love with me...I already know that you're someone special but since you've never had sex before we're not going to do it until you're sure that you want me to be the one." I went home that night and thought...and the next day I knew that he really was "the one"...we stayed up for 2 days straight talking and just holding each other and then I literally turned to him and said "I can't believe I'm saying this, but I love you." and he laughed and said "Oh thank God because I love you too"....8 years later, we're married with 2 children and very much in love despite problems we might have along the way.
Do I think 'fast love" can be real? absolutely...but it's definitely the exception and not the rule, so proceed with caution.
I had waited to have sex...I was about to turn 18, had graduated high school...met my husband..and it was like everything clicked for me.
I refused to have sex before that because I didn't want to get pregnant and I wanted to only sleep with the person I was going to marry...and even though I dated...a LOT...the only thing I ever did was seriously frustrate my boyfriends, lol.
But when my husband told me "I won't sleep with you until you're in love with me...I already know that you're someone special but since you've never had sex before we're not going to do it until you're sure that you want me to be the one." I went home that night and thought...and the next day I knew that he really was "the one"...we stayed up for 2 days straight talking and just holding each other and then I literally turned to him and said "I can't believe I'm saying this, but I love you." and he laughed and said "Oh thank God because I love you too"....8 years later, we're married with 2 children and very much in love despite problems we might have along the way.
Do I think 'fast love" can be real? absolutely...but it's definitely the exception and not the rule, so proceed with caution.
My DH was telling me he loved me after about 2 weeks of dating (I hadn't slept with him yet) and I thought the exact same things..LOL! I thought he was just trying to get in my pants and would say anything to do so but luckily it didn't turn out that way. I made him wait, we spent every free minute either together or on the phone. I definitely had my reservations but after I realized he was genuine and let my guard down, it was one of the best things I ever did. 7 years of marriage and counting...
With that said, there are guys out there who do just that...will say or do anything to sleep with you. I think your 6 month rule is a wonderful idea and I'd stick with that. By then you will know exactly who you are dealing with. I would love to hear more about this guy in a month or so as well! Hope it all works out!!
With that said, there are guys out there who do just that...will say or do anything to sleep with you. I think your 6 month rule is a wonderful idea and I'd stick with that. By then you will know exactly who you are dealing with. I would love to hear more about this guy in a month or so as well! Hope it all works out!!
Of course he is going to deny it when you ask him if he is using you. I like the fact that you have a 6 month rule. It will definitely give you alot of time to figure him out, as well as your feelings for him. I just hope you stick to your guns with this one! I have a feeling he is going to be pushy when it comes to intimacy, because he already began pushing the relationship with the "L" word. I mean, he's gonna want to show you how much he loves you! If he's just trying to get into your pants, he's definitely not going to wait 6 months. You will probably have a better idea of what he's all about sooner than that anyways! Good luck and keep us posted. I'd like to find out how genuine this guy is.
2 weeks and he's already spurting the big L word????? That is either one super gonna be clingy/jealous/control freak OR he's trying to you in bed.
I'd take that as a huge red flag. I'd even be freaked after 4-6 months. I knew my dh for 16-17 years when we started to date and we STILL didn't say the " I love you" 's until after a year.
I'd take that as a huge red flag. I'd even be freaked after 4-6 months. I knew my dh for 16-17 years when we started to date and we STILL didn't say the " I love you" 's until after a year.
I also think he's wooing you to get you in the sack. I think its not real but could be if you follow your code. Let him really get to know you first. I would also tell him that you are happy that he feels so strongly but you want to take it slow. If he sticks around he's a good guy but if he bails well you got your answer.
He is my age..and thats what i was thinking. i dont know if it was only me being scared at the idea of love, or if he actually meant it
No, we havent. i have a 6 month rule. i believe that if a guy wants to be with my bad enough, he is mature enough to wait. and i asked him if he was only going to use me, but he said no. that what he feels is from the bottom of his heart.
Upon reading your post, a light went off in my head. Have you two been intimate yet? I wonder if maybe he is just trying to get what most guys that age want. If you haven't, be very cautious!
But if you have, who knows where this relationship could go. If he makes you feel good, and you're happy, go with the flow. But, don't tell him you love him, until you genuinely feel it.
But if you have, who knows where this relationship could go. If he makes you feel good, and you're happy, go with the flow. But, don't tell him you love him, until you genuinely feel it.
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I've said it before-------- commitment phobes are annoying but those who fall in love in 30 seconds are scary.
This has happened to me. Some people do fall in love super fast . . . but they are usually looking to do so and often in love with being in love. They don't lay a foundation.
Your warning bell is ringing--------- I think rightly so. Just my opinion.
This has happened to me. Some people do fall in love super fast . . . but they are usually looking to do so and often in love with being in love. They don't lay a foundation.
Your warning bell is ringing--------- I think rightly so. Just my opinion.
Sounds a little over the top after only 2 weeks. How can someone know if he loves you after only 2 weeks? How old is he, is he your age?
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