Hon, what do you need to tell her? Is she asking for your help or are you involving yourself?
Sounds like you need to choose better friends. A woman sending a man in jail her last dime because he told her so doesn't sound very savvy. It's apparent he is using her.
I wouldn't recommend getting involved and I would let her come to her own conclusions and make her own decisions.
You've had a terrible time with a guy recently on here that you cared about. Hopefully he's gone. Your best friend is having the same type of problem.
I think you both need to let go of men that are bringing nothing to your lives. You can say simply, that he sounds like's he's being phony and you think she could do better, but in order to do that and not be a hypocrite, you need to have lost the last violent sponge you were dabbling with not too long ago.
Maybe you both would consider trying to date men that were not sponges, or going off to jail. There are single clubs, and dating, that you could do together, that might be fun. Make a list and adhere to it, like Has to be working for a year. Has to have family relationships in good standing. Can't be on parole or probation or community service etc.
Both of you young ladies should prioritize getting ahead in your own life, by prioritizing education and career, Take a break from these losers.
There's no good future in hanging with these types of men that use women. There's no pride in having a man that is using you. It's better to have no man than one that uses you.
You can't do much more than voice your opinion to your friend, but always, you can get through to people the best way by setting the best example.
your right i see it from others but in my situation I was blind by it all but I can see it now thank you
I'm really happy to see that you recognize that you need to be working on you in a big way and that by example you can help your friend.
hope you both choose to choose WISELY. any man in your lives.
always here to talk,
Liz
yes for sure and to make sure to do background checks and to know if a good guy not ever been arrested is not a grown man still living at home to make sure he has a job and can hold one and if he is a father already make sure he is active in his kids lives instead of a deadbeat and also one who don't just talk about himself or sex I know my red flags now lol
This guy is not serious about his relationship with you. He's another dud (unless he the guy that got out of jail, and then he's the same dud).
Meeting a good prospect often happens through friends at work. If you don't have a job, or don't have a good job, why not consider going back to school? You can meet quality men in college or if you have a good job. Quality men want quality women. They want to know that they are not being used , so they gravitate towards other like minded, educated, career driven women.
Are you working?