I'm so sorry. I lost my first child too, and that's hard to take. You've learned some very valuable insight into when and who you are involved with for your next child, and that's priceless. Be extra special good to yourself, and take it easy. God Bless you.
Oh goodness.......that's terrible. So sorry for you dear.
well I now had a miscarriage from stressing I just hate myself now
Agree with the above posters.
He doesn't sound worthy of you, however, he is RESPONSIBLE for this child on the way.....NO doubt about that.
Secondly, is he even seeking help for this ADHD issue? If he is NOT and he is just using this as an excuse for "this and that" then you definitely don't need to be in any romantic relationship with him.
All the best.
I agree with AHP84.
What You see is what You get. Words can be meaningless (tears too) but His Behavior can't be denied.
Love is Good - Love is NOT HurtFul, Inconsiderate or UnKind.
Good Luck
You are right in a way i haven't begged him but he called me saying he was crying which could have been a lie and i gave him a time frame to change idk anymore
Secondly, you say you are his "first love"and "i know he loves me he just have a hard way of showing it."
No. He is being an immature boy who is, I'm guessing between the ages of 18-22, and not ready to commit to a relationship or start a family. The *idea* to him sounds nice, and something to which he feels obligated to try, but if his heart was truly in this--he would not be treating you this way and neither would his family (even if his family does not like or love you for whatever reason, if HE were serious about you, your relationship together, and raising a child together, he would stand up for you and not let them "take advantage of you," however it is they did that).
Could ADHD play into the maturity factor in this? Absolutely. I won't tell you he should act more mature, firstly because of his age alone, and secondly because of a behavioral disorder. But again, I come back to both of these factors giving him NO excuse to lie to you and be trying to hook up with other women.
My advice to you is to prepare yourself to raise your child on your own and write this realtionship off and quit deceiving yourself that he cares about you as much as he does and using ADHD as an excuse. Sorry if that sounds harsh, but I'm trying to spare you a lot of frustration and grief that'll come tenfold once the baby is born if you keep this guy tied to you, begging him to maintain a relationship with you.
What I am NOT telling you to do is cut him out of your life. He is the father of your child so he needs to be responsible for that whether he's ready and mature enough or not. You need to be sure to establish his paternity when the child is born so he is obligated to pay child support and has visitation offered to him so he can be involved and hopefully mature into becoming a good father while creating a bond in with his child in that timeframe.
You, however, do not need to tie yourself down to this frustration, confusion, guilt, and deception he's putting you through.
I was 20 years old when I had my first child and I pretty much had to raise him all on my own for quite a few years. You can do it, and your child is counting on you to provide him/her with a home and life that is stable and free of drama.