aid testing

[Bree_05_15]

So my hubby nd i were having a disscussion the other day about how he found a little bump on his under ball area i believe it went away  but i told gim y dont u get tested so u know forsure hey im clean i know ive been tested aloot ! Even after my baby to check u never know i know we both have been commited but he hasnt checked the whole time we dated or got married or anything i just want ro make sure 100 percent positive we r ok is there an at hometest he can get? And it kinda worries me he was with alot of girls before me..

[Bree_05_15]

Ya well i figured it wouldnt hurt if he just went to get checked idk i use to freak over this when i was in highschool they said to be caucious nd ever since i have been

[nursegirl6572]

People who are sexually active should have basic STD screening annually, including HIV.  Nothing you described is at all suspicious for an STD, especially not HIV.

There is now an at-home test one can take for HIV, it's called the OraQuick and can be purchased in any drug store.  I don't see any indication that he needs to test for HIV, but if he hasn't been tested for a while, it doesn't hurt.  If he DOES decide to test, I would recommend going to a clinic for a full STD panel rather than taking the in-home HIV test.  

[Bree_05_15]

Thanks ya haha well i feel like he should juwt do it so we both dont have to worry if he has anything after having sex for a year wouldnt have shown up or not nessicarily?

[specialmom]

Well, you can't get an std from a toilet seat.  Ha, I'm sure you know that.  If he thinks he might have something wrong, it's crazy to not get it checked.  I'm a married woman and don't do routine std checks nor does my husband that I know of.  Don't feel it is necessary.  

But if your husband has a bump that shows up, what you can say is to just get it looked at and leave out the part about it possibly being an std.  then he'll go to the doctor, explain the symptom and the doctor can handle what tests he needs.  

If you've tested negative for std's after being with him, it's doubtful he has an std even if he'd been with 2000 women before you.  

But to the larger point, you seem to be communicating with him and asking him to test.  It's an easy thing to do and he probably should just do it to give you peace of mind once and for all.  I get that part of it and yes, that he should do.  

good luck

[Bree_05_15]

Well i get checked just because i had the baby i jist wanted to one more time i was clean:) the thing is i asked if he ever got checked when started dating he said no thats y we didnt have sex for a while but then it never got brought up again becuz we had gotten married nd so on.. the only reason got brought up is because he noticed a bump i asked him if he would get checked cuz he had slept with more then 20 girls which is ew but thats his past. He told me he was worried to get checked becuz what if he was nd he tried using a toliet seat a way of getting a disease so idk seemed worried scared me

[specialmom]

Hm.  Well, I can honestly say I've never asked my husband to get checked for std's.  If I was worried about before we got together, I'd probably have asked him to get a test before having sex but it seems somewhat odd to get checked after marriage to me.  Why do you get checked?  What do you mean---  you never know?  Do you think your husband had something latent and hadn't passed it to you yet or do you wonder if he's cheating?