help!!! :(

[jrjend0217]

after trying to six yrs with my husband, and we are actually two weeks away from the baby coming. he comes to me and tells me that he wants to leave, that he needs some time for himself. but he doesn't want us to be enemies.  how could he do this to me?? I know he is going to be a great father, but how do you just decide to walk away from your nine month pregnant wife, because you need time for yourself? what about me our relationship, trying for six yrs to have this little baby ?? I don't know how to feel, he acts like nothing is happening, he stays at home with me, because he says he is not going to leave me by myself at least until I'm able to heal from my c-section. please help!! I think I'm going to end up crazy, because it doesn't matter how much I try to see the reality I just can't. :(

[anshu11]

He must be too scared to handle the responsibilities that come with the baby.try to work on his anxiety.

[mami1323]

Are you sure he isn't seeing someone else?  That sounds so awful but that's the first thought that popped into my mind.  Yes men get scared, they can freak out and realize that this is a life changing event that they are just not ready for but I also feel like there are underlying reasons to why he just is so willing to up and leave his wife and soon to be new child.  Has there been any suspicious behavior before this?

[SeriousSam]

He needs counseling.  It sounds petty but the first baby for some men can be terrifying.  NO excuse and I know you are not really in a good spot now either..   Some guys are in our selfish society freaked out and instead of stepping up to the plate due what Americans do best as individuals and cut and run.  With counseling you might be able to put what he's doing down as temporary insanity.

Being a divorced dad  this time of year always makes me extremely edgy so I apolagise if I come across in that manner

[Ashelen]

he sounds absolutely terrified....a lot of men start to panic as the due date or scheduled birth gets closer...did you tell him exactly what you said here? that you feel blind-sided and betrayed? I would sit him down and say "look I know you're frightened...it's all overwhelming, and I'm scared too...I just need to know that we're going to be there for each other. partners, parents...we just really need to get on the same page and help each other. I need your help physically..your presence and support...what do YOU need from ME?"

unfortunately when men become scared of big changes they very often become selfish and do things that are incredibly hurtful....but if this is out of the blue I would say it's all due to his anxiety about the upcoming birth. were there any warning signs, or other odd behaviors before this?