possible to avoid being effect by alcohol?

[Jrenee88]

Okay I know im probably gonna get bashed for being a buzz kill here its okay ive been dealing with that forever.

I dont drink I turned 21 6months before my husband and still didn't drink... well he is about to turn 21 (he drinks, not at home because im a buzz kill but with friends/ family)

WELL he turns 21 in a week. He had me buy beer (he dosent drink hard liquor much, just alot of beer) and wine coolers.

He wants me to have a drink just a wine cooler or two on his bday with him and his friends.  But he is forever talking about how cool it is thats his friends girls drink and can handle it and are fun and him and his friends were talking about how im not gonna be able to handle it blah blah blah ( hurt my feelings a bit.) Its like this with everything always being compared to "other girls" he knows but anyway off the subject.

I want to know the best way to have alcohol have the least effect on me. Any tips of something to eat before or anything? Even if I have to secretly  dump it out and fill ot up with cool aid I refuse to get tipsy! And I dont wanna proof my husband right about not being able to handle it even if I have to lie about drinking it lol (super buzz kill I know) but I dont plan on drinking much so this isnt gonna br an on going problem for me.

Im 115 lb and never drank before.  If it was a gf I might try it and not be worried about getting a buzz but with all the comments I get from him I really want to prove him wrong. So please dont twll me to just drink and enjoy myself because no lol

[ashsue]

Dont let him peerpressure u in to drinking but if u decide on ur own to have a glass put what ever ur having over a cup of ice just say ur not used to the taste and like it better i do it with beer. U can make wine less strong with grape juice or white wine using white grape juice. Bread items like chips and pretzels are bad cuz it majes u thirsty stay away from salty if u want to drink less but a sandwhic is a must before drinking the bigger the meal means less room for boose, most alholics dont like to eat cuz it ruins their buz. If ur making ur own drink and always do it ur self cuz u controol the wmount just a little splash of jack in ur drink can make a regular coke smell like a strong one but add ice and alot of pop and ull never feel it. And always sip never gulp. I lovecdrinking but cant do alot (my lumit is 3 drinks) because of migrans so i follow these rules to make sure i font get a migrane but i like to socially drink and this hekps me feel included but not make me sick.

[Jrenee88]

My husband makes sure if we ever have any friends here (were far away from home so we dont) but anytime anyone wants to visit he makes sure  their not bringing anything ( like pot ) with them... all our friends here drink thats it.. their all military as well...my husband smoked when he was like 16 but I put an end to that eventually lol

[specialmom]

Very good advice sportsmomTX.  

[SportsmomTX]

First,  Military & Pot don't mix...  if he is around them smoking & he gets picked for random **** test,  He is out....  so he need to stay away...
As for you drinking,  One thing to remember for you.  DON"T do anything that makes you uncomfortable or against your wishes.    If you don't want to drink you shouldn't have to do it for any reason.  To prove to him anything or to be like anyone else.     He married you for who you are .. Sober..
If you decide to,  Eat before & sip slow.  Water it down  with ice.  You may not even like the taste.    Here's hoping you don't drink.          

[Chima7]

I've never been much of a drinker. My beverage of choice is Coke. I despise Pepsi. So while all my friends are drinking their bourbon and whatever else, I'm always drinking Coke. However every once in a while I'll get a shot of tequila or a glass of wine but it's less than once a month. I definitely feel something but it only lasts a short time cause I'm not a fan of the buzzed feeling, myself. I end up being the designated driver and that's fine with me cause I know I haven't been drinking.

[TTinKKerBBell]

You have chosen not to drink - so don't.

It's very odd that Your Husband would belittle You for not doing what His Friends' GirlFriends are doing - comparing You to other Girls.  Why is it so important to Him that You have a drink or two?  Most especially, why would He want You to do this when You prefer not to.  I am SO not getting this!!

That being said, People drink alcohol to get "high".  They WANT the buzz They get from alcohol.  If it wasn't for the 'buzz',  People would drink water, or juice, or coke, or root beer, or something WITHOUT alcohol.  

It makes no sense for You to have an alcoholic drink with no intention of becoming buzzed.  If You don't want to get "buzzed", don't drink alcohol.

It also seems really odd to me that You would 'trick' Him into thinking You are having an alcohol drink if You are not.  JUST SAY "NO". Say "No thank you, but NO",

[Jrenee88]

Thank you all.

[Vance2335]

After you have been drinking for a while 1 drink normally is not a big deal, but 1 every 6 months...you are going to feel it.

I used to think drinking was so great, until my drinking led to bad decisions. I have since stopped and could care less if I ever drink again...it is over rated.

And yes overall I say stick to your guns and not drink.

[Londres70]

"He wants me to have a drink just a wine cooler or two on his bday with him and his friends.  But he is forever talking about how cool it is thats his friends girls drink and can handle it and are fun and him and his friends were talking about how im not gonna be able to handle it blah blah blah ( hurt my feelings a bit.) Its like this with everything always being compared to "other girls" he knows but anyway off the subject."...........That sounds high school-ish to me.

Who cares what others are doing?  If your decision is not to drink then that's that and your husband should respect that.

[specialmom]

Being drunk is overrated, trust me.  People look like fools a lot when drunk and you're smart to not put yourself in that position.  A simple "I'm not into it" should suffix.  

But there is no way to really drink alcohol and not get buzzed if you actually ingest it.  

[Jrenee88]

Thank you all. Im just a stubborn person lol I want to drink and not get buzzed. I want something thats not possible :p im always trying to prove people wrong but that might not be possible this time. Just thought it be cool to drink.. not get drunk..then be like really? Thats it? Thats was stupid..lol dont make sence.

[specialmom]

I think Vance said he thought you should just stick to your guns and not drink.  I agree with Vance.  

I don't get it.  I don't do things like alter my senses with drinking for others. Isn't that peer pressure, even if it comes from your young husband.  

I still think he is being immature hon.  I would not do it to please him.  And certainly not with a group of people.  If you are curious about alcohol, have a drink alone with him at home some time.  

But it would irritate me that he is so gung ho for you to drink.  But you have to do what you have to do.  I do hear in your writing that you feel like he thinks other people are more fun than you and wonder if you are worried that he'll get bored with you if you don't drink.  That's a problem in a relationship.  He should RESPECT who YOU are.  

[Jrenee88]

Lol I like your idea vance! And we only have bud lite and strawberry daiquiri coolers. Been sitting in my fridge for a week lol cause like I said only on special occasions and its not his bday yet.

[Jrenee88]

We've been exclusive since we got together at 16, hes in the military and we have two kids. This is really the only thing we bump heads on is substances.  Like I dont like anything that messes with your senses (with the exception of caffeine lol) but he doesn't do anything at all but drink on special occasions. ,bday, super bowl ect. (Not family Hollidays) like he doesn't like my opinions on his pot head friends because he dosent see anything wrong with it. He doesn't do it he just dosent see anything wrong with it... were pretty good with everything else we just always bump heads with alcohol. He says if I try it I wouldn't be so afraid and hate it so much. So I want him to know not everyone who has drink likes it cause I dont wanna get a buzz act all giddy and him get the wrong idea

Ps my kids are gonna be with their grandparents next weekend or this wouldn't be coming up..at all.

[specialmom]

Root beer looks like a dark beer.  I have a friend who's husband has to entertain a lot and he orders a root beer without ice to look like he is not drinking and avoid his colleagues bugging him (which is super annoying).  

[Vance2335]

It's harder not to drink then drink. Why don't you want to drink?

With never having a drink before having one might give you a good buzz. But eat close to when having a drink, mix in water meaning take a drink of the whatever and then next drink take of water.

Or if you want to really deceive them you can pretend to take a sip every now and then and then go to the bathroom with your drink and pour some out.

But if you have 1 drink you will be pressured into having 2 and so on. I say best thing to do is not to drink. If drinking is so important to him then maybe he is not right for you.

[specialmom]

Hi there.  Why do you think you are going to get bashed here?  

I personally admire your choice to not drink.  I'm a little concerned about your husband's great desire to drink and thoughts that he'd like you to join him.  I'll be honest----  you sound mature.  He doesn't.

Is there any chance you married so young that he might not be quite ready to be a grown up?  I think referring to one's significant other who doesn't drink as a buzz kill and implying that those with girlfriends who drink have more fun partners is a very large red flag as to the two of you being on different planes in terms of maturity.  

There is really no way to drink alcohol and not get drunk.  Alcohol affects our nervous system.  If you drink, you get drunk.  Now, if you have half of a drink---  and you've eaten, maybe it won't affect you.  That does happen.  But I'm not much of a drinker and alcohol will affect me quickly.  I drink maybe half a glass of wine and I feel the affects.  I stop as soon as I feel that because I'm not interested in a buzz.  I've got kids and things to do and don't care to get buzzed.  There are times I drink half a glass and feel fine.  I drink a bit of red wine maybe once a month.  In the summer, I might have a margarita every once in a blue moon at a social gathering.  But I just take small sips, have another drink along side it such as a water or pop and drink very little of the alcoholic beverage.  Works for me.  

The thing is, he's manipulating you to drink when you'd prefer not to.  It would be hard for me to please my man in this way and I'm not sure why you want to be a part of that.  If YOU are of age and want a drink, have one. But to do it so your partner thinks you are fun or because he is manipulating you by making it a challenge or anything like that----  it's just not worth it.  And really again, makes me wonder about the foundation of this relationship.

good luck