can someone please help me.

[bip]

My husband came home from work he seemed fine... He went on the computer I went in the shower came out and I started packing in 2 days Im moving...... He got off he said what is your problem? I said we need to get things done and he said well I have to finish the game I said well it;s more things to worry about than a game he started swearing @ me and banging everything scaring my kids and dog.He left and said Im never coming back again......My kids were upset.What do I do? Im so depress I have to move and I have to work....He's just on the computer way too much.......I can't handle no more stress anymore...  My life stinks right now I been in stress for months now.....It  makes me very upset cause he is always on the computer I really don't mind he is on it it's just way out of control......Now Im scared for him to come back cause the anger he had in him......I don't know if it's my fault what I did.....I just got sick and tired of it.He goes on before he goes to work when he gets home until he goes to bed...Tired of it but he thinks hes not doing nothing wrong........ Thanks for listening to me.......

[bip]

Ya he did come back he did tell me he is stressing about moving .No he been doing this computer thing for a while........He said the computer helps him relieve stress  Next friday Im going to go out with friends from work.....Im going to need it haven't been out for a while......This friday my mom is taking my 2 boyz for the night and my friends are coming to help us move things when we are done my husband and I are going out for a couple of hours.One of my friends are going to watch my puppie at least I will not have no worries..I can't wait until this is over....... thanks everyone just want to be happy again.....

[April2]

Bip, I'm so sorry you're going through this! I hope he has returned home by now (and hopefully remorseful). Maybe this move is just stressing him out too and he's using the computer as his outlet or way of relaxing and relieving stress. Is this something fairly new or has this been going on for awhile? If it is new then it will be easier to break. For now, focus on this move and try to not snap at each other. It would be a good idea to involve some friends or family members to help you pack and move. Moving in itself can be stressful. Just hang in there. Hopefully things will settle down a little for you after you're settled in your new place. Keep in touch and let us know how you're doing. God bless.

[Trialanderror]

Bip, game addictions are almost as bad as any other addiction and at this moment try to just somehow get your move done without thinking about his issues. It is something only he can resolve and it is too bad that you are basically carrying the whole burden of the move on your own. But once you are settled in take a breather and think about your future with or without your husband. Computer games can be extremely addictive and true addicts only wake up after they have lost their whole family. I went through the stages of living with a husband-turned-game-zombie who missed out on all the great moments with his firstborn newborn son. There comes the point when marriage becomes pointless with a game addict. They don`t see the loved ones around them and lose any sense of time and of course they never see themseves as addicts becasue it`s only just another game and another one. Passive-aggressive types tend to fall for this and your husband sure has shown both sides by now from what you have written. It is really something hard to discuss with the "addict" so at least for now just move on and see what happens. Good luck, don`t freak out, as long as you are the master of your own life it will turn out fine in the end.

[anxiousmomtobe?]

I still think you should have some of your girlfriends in to help you pack.  It is obviously stressful and that may help.