What sort of substances is he abusing?? I do know there are people on the substance abuse forum that are not addicts but have a loved one who is. They have some really good advice. You are not alone in this. Come on over there and talk with us. sara
you do not say how old you are or how long you have been married to this man, and it is never to late, just because you have oblgations, dont you think your dad sees what is going on? can you not go to work if you have relatives or sisters maybe they can keep dad, if not you can work and there are people that can come out and cook for your dad whille you are at work, just look for your options, you will have some talk with a counsler or medicare worker at human rescources, you do not have to put up with it luck jo if you stay go to alouns or group therapy there are a lot out there that are in the same boat so to speak and you can help each other with support
this sounds like my father...he would disappear for days at a time to go and "use" then it came to a point where he totaled a car and got another stolen...my brother and i were both out of the house and he left my mom,prob when she needed him the most for Chicago. i dont know how my mom or my brother deal with the anger...but i hate him i choose not to deal with him even if he is not acting out...and you know i think if asked he would blame the way a treat him as a part of why he goes and does whatever he does...i guess cause my mom forgives my brother will still humor him when hes acting right
i dont really have any advise other than you need to find what works...you can be like me,my mom, or my brother