having problem with boyfreind after sex

[karys1]

I have a boyfriend whom i love and trusted so much that even though we planned not to have sex till we marry we broke that vow and that's silly on my side for allowing that . After having sex and i left things began to change and we started having problems. I read on his chat with a friend that he is not ready for me cos of my monetary issues which is cos i asked for something to sort myself out in school. And on another chat he told the friend that my breast is pechee that is soft. And cos of the sex i allowed he  thought i give myself out to every guy as such which never happened before. He told me that we should leave love and concentrate on knowing each other which i agreed to but he never pick my call and we scarcely chat on social media as well . Sometimes he won't even reply my chats and takes word from everything i say . Now cos of a question i asked he said we should be friends trying to know each other for dating and marriage of which i wanted to hesitate he asked me to respect his decision . Because i told his mom about the issue and he was approached he got angry with me saying i don't trust him. But i don't want to leave him too what do i do

[Nighthawk61]

And cos of the sex i allowed he  thought i give myself out to every guy as such
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he was half of the decision making process
yet, you blame yourself? why ?
we broke that vow and that's silly on my side for allowing that
when you start out blaming yourself and taking all the heat of this decision you're making it easier for him to blame you
you are enabling his blaming behavior
you have to stick up for yourself by seeing this for what is was
a decision based equally on decisions made by two consenting adults
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cos of my monetary issues which is cos i asked for something to sort myself out in school
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and he brings up you're in debt with a student loan,
whereas he would like a girl whose father gave him 10 goats ? or he would prefer a women with property and chattel ?
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Walk away from this one. He's what is called as a male chauvenist pig-
maybe because you are not married and are still single and more able to find another partner that he feels insecure ? many men promote a rude exterior to make up for self insecurities , maybe it s penis envy ?
There are GENTLEMEN OUT THERE I SUGGEST YOU WAIT FOR ONE.


Definition: A male chauvinist pig (MCP) was a term used in the 1960s among some feminists for some men, usually men with some power (such as an employer or professor), who believed that men were superior and expressed that opinion freely in word and action.

"Chauvinist" means someone who assertively maintains that his or her kind -- usually people of the same nationality -- are superior; "chauvinism" refers to an extreme and bigoted form of patriotism.

Thus, "male chauvinism" was used to refer to an attitude of male superiority or male entitlement to power over women.

"Pig" was a word of derision used by some student activists in the 1960s and 70s to refer to police officers and, by extension, others with power.

[Londres70]

"Because i told his mom about the issue and he was approached he got angry with me saying i don't trust him. But i don't want to leave him too what do i do"..............I think the relationship is pretty much done after this happened.  Wasn't a great idea to talk with his mother about your relationship issues.  That's pretty much a "never do" in a relationship.

"After having sex and i left things began to change and we started having problems.".............. He wants to end things.

"He told me that we should leave love and concentrate on knowing each other which i agreed to but he never pick my call and we scarcely chat on social media as well."...............He wants to end things.

Do you really want to be with a guy who chats badly about you to his friends? He said nothing nice at all in his chats.  He doesn't think much of you if he is describing your breasts to a friend and saying that you will have sex with anyone.  

Sounds like once he slept with you all the sparks were gone and he was no longer interested or he was just trying to sleep with you in the first place.  Well, I highly doubt any relationship will continue after you had that discussion with his mother.  You may not want to leave him, but hon he has already started to pull away from you.  Takes two to want the relationship.

BTW:  I don't recommend snooping and reading chats that weren't intended for YOU to read.  If you are doing this than that would indicate you don't trust your partner.

[specialmom]

Hi there and welcome.  Sorry to hear this!  Basically, I am guessing you might have been more committed to this relationship than he was.  I don't think we should be reading other people's chats though.  I'm sorry he was saying hurtful things but it is an invasion of his privacy to read what he writes between friends.  

So, he is saying he wants to be friends rather than in a romantic relationship with you?  I'm just trying to clarify what is going on.